A little confused....

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Registered: 03-25-2006
A little confused....
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Sat, 04-07-2007 - 10:28am
I met a guy three years ago in school. We remained friends but lost contact for about a year. In september we started talking again. He texts me daily and thats how we communicate. He is always saying we need to hang out and how much he wants to hang out.. But never makes plans... What should I be thinking? I am so confused, why bring it up if he doesnt mean it? I dont know what to do at this point.. Any advice?
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sat, 04-07-2007 - 11:49am
To him you are still a "buddy". Here's an idea: the next time he suggests hanging out text him back with "do you want to make plans?" and see what he says. If he says "sure, maybe this weekend", you need to pin him down to a specific date. Then, you suggest "Friday or Saturday?" He has to pick a date. Make sure you do not ask an open ended question. Like in sales, sometimes my potential customers would vaguely state that one day they would run an ad with me in my paper, so I would make sure that the question would be "okay, so I will come by either Tuesday or Thursday, pick a day." Sometimes people need a little nudge, especially if he is unsure about your feelings about him.
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Registered: 04-15-2006
Mon, 04-09-2007 - 12:05am
I agree with the other poster. Next time he says we should hang out you could say "I'm free Friday and Wednesday, which night is better for you?"
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Registered: 09-19-2002
Mon, 04-09-2007 - 7:03pm
ugh... I hate it when they do that. It's a serious pet peeve of mine. Maybe he's just being nice and it's like a 'default' nicety with him but doesn't really mean it. I prefer my men (and friends) to be more proactive.
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Mon, 04-09-2007 - 7:12pm

I don't mean to be harsh, but... if he really wanted to hang out with you, he would. His wishy-washiness shows a lack of interest. I wouldn't bother with this guy. Even if you got involved with him, this type of behavior would happen again.


Look for someone who shows you true interest.

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Tue, 04-10-2007 - 2:14am
cl-bklynchik is right about being wishy washy; it never goes away.