A little confusion and trouble...
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| Sun, 12-11-2005 - 7:17pm |
Ok I will apoligize right now, its a little long. I had to give you some background so you understand it completely.
Ok...well, my best guy friend admited to me in september that he likes me more than a friend. not too long after that I found out he got a girlfriend. The typical super blonde, skinny, pretty girl. He usually goes after those types of girls soo thats why when he told me he likes me I was extremely confused because I dont consider myself a pretty girl and I'm not super skinny...more like the size 12 athletic chick! haha. Well...he caught her cheating on him in october and broke up. All through November he opened up to me and I've never opened up to him, never said i liked him back. Only because I was confused being that we were friends and I kind of still saw him as a friend....well lets just say I thought about it and I dont see him as just a friend, I like him...a lot! haha. We dont see each other a lot because of college and he told me that if and when he asks me out he wants to do it in person. So its december now and we havnt seen each other for a month now. We have talked on the phone a few times and we're always IMing each other online. The other we talked for 5 hrs.
Ok...now to the confusing part (unless youre confused already! haha).... our one friend, who we will name, Ben...has been supportive about my guy friend and I but the other day he turned my words around and used them against my guy friend and I. A few weeks back I was in kind of a slump. I said things that I didnt mean. I told Ben that I dont understand why my guy friend likes me because when i compare myself to his ex's I am completely different. Also I said that since its been awhile since he said he was going to ask me out I am losing hope and that if theres another girl out there I was going to tell him to just go for it and forget me. Well Ben told my guy friend that he doesnt see how he likes me because of me not being his type and why hasnt he asked me out and just all this nonsense. Now my guy friend is all depressed and keeps saying that he just wants to give up. Since Ben said all this it makes me think. What if my guy friend is just tired of being single and having bad gf that I'm just his last resort? or something else like that. I dont know what to think or do or say now. I'm not sure of anything. Can you help? Any advice?
P.S. Sorry for it being long and if I confused you, I'm no good at these.
thank you for your time!!!
-Mel

I don't understand why Ben's comments would make your guy friend depressed?