Living a lie vs divorce??

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Registered: 05-02-2003
Living a lie vs divorce??
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Sat, 07-07-2007 - 5:36pm

This is basically the next chapter in something I posted here just a little over a month ago. Basically we are both married and completely (beyond anything that either of us imagined possible between two people) in love with each other. We are both married to spouses that don't appreciate us or put any effort into the marriage. I could go on defending how we feel, but I did that in a previous post and everybody pretty much agreed with the "direction of our feelings". So for my situation that needs input. I am clear that after some events this fall I will be pursuing a divorce from my wife because of many reasons, but the one of the biggest is I refuse to live in a lie. It's not fair to her, me, our kids or family and friends to continue in a marriage that has no "in love" foundation to anchor from. In sense not living in a lie. Well the other half of this pairing has a fairly stong Christian faith that is not very accepting of divorce. She has asked that we cool down (we haven't been sexual, but kissing, hugging and other loving gestures have been prominent) until she can figure some things out. So I wondering if anybody out there can give me a better in sight as to whether it is worse in a Christian view point to live in a lie or divorce for an eventual better life for all?

Thanks for your help.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Sat, 07-07-2007 - 6:39pm

I know this is very painful and frustrating but the major point is that it is HER point of view, at least for now.

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