Living with one man in love with another
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Living with one man in love with another
| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 1:42am |
About a year and a half ago my boyfreind and I broke up because he cheated. I was crushed,after all we were together for 7 years and the last 3 we lived in the same house. After we broke up and he moved out I was out with girlfreinds one night and bumped into one of his freinds. We had a few drinks and he listened to me cry and complain about my ex. One week later we bumped into each other again and had a few more drinks. Later that night I ask him if he wanted to come over so we could talk some more and he did. Well things got a little out of hand and one thing led to another untill we had sex. It was wonderful, I had never felt anything like it before, he was totaly pleasing to me, with little self satifaction for him self. I had never experianced anyone so giving. We continued this for 4 months...My ex never found out because we only met after hours and never really went out on a real date. The whole 4 months wasnt only about sex we did have very indepthed conversations. Towards the end of the 4th month my ex wanted to work things out and return home. I talked to my then new freind and ask his opinion. He incouraged me to try one more time saying I would never know if I didnt. So I did return, Now Its a year and a half later and I cant get him out of my head. I have seen him a few times when my boyfreind and I are out. Until last week, I broke down and called him asking if I could see him. We started having sex but then he stopped right in the middle of it all and said he really missed me, then held me so tight I could barly breath. I told him I had missed him too and couldnt get him off my mind. After a few minutes we got up and dressed and he said that he would call me and we could see each other again, But he didnt know when because his work has him out of town alot.So he would see me when he could. Now I have spoke to anouther freind of ours and he confided in me that my freind had been through a bad break up and doesnt trust anyone right now, But knew he cared for me. But didnt belive that I would leave mty current boyfreind. I dont know what to do please help....Do you think I was just a fling?

Pianoguy thinks that each of you are satisfying a need...and apparently, sex is part of the equation?
Now if this is something you're comfortable with I guess this can go on indefinitely? But ultimately...you (or he) will want more from the other...and unless you can drop the b/f and concentrate on each other, your relationship probably won't go any further?
Pianoguy