Long distance blues??????

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Long distance blues??????
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 9:15pm
Hello,

I am soooo confused! Since 1995 I have been in an on again/off again relationship with my current long-distance boyfriend. In the beginning I was 18 and he was 19 and it was more of just a hang out with each other type of relationship. Then he moved over 800 miles away. We always kept in touch and I would go visit him and he would visit me but nothing too serious. Fast forward to 1998 in the midst of our off and on time I met a guy and in 9 months was pregnant. I spoke with my current boyfriend every single day through out my pregnancy and for a while after. Then we had a period of about 2 yrs. where we did not speak to each other because I was trying to make things work w/my sons father. When that did not work out we were on again. I said the first time I saw him, I wanted him to be the man that I married, but we never were on the same page. I was always more into him and our relationship then he was. I always wanted to move to be with him but we never spoke about it. In about 2001 he mentioned me moving to be with him, but I was not ready because I felt that he was not giving me his all and he was too into clubing, his friends, and his single life and I was not sure that I wanted to move my son into all of that. Needless to say we broke up again and started dating other people. I dated a guy who I thought was great and could see my self being with for a long time but every moment we spent together, every event we attended, or thing we did I always wished that I could be doing It with my ex(current boyfriend). Well as you guessed by now me and the great guy broke up and within a couple of months me and my current boyfriend were on again, except this time It was like a fairy tale-just how I always wanted It to be. We were both on the same page and wanted to start a life together. That was easier said then done. My sons father who is 90% absent opposed the move and now in order for me to go I will have to endure court battles(which I despise). Well I guess after all of this rambling, my question is do I battle and move in the name of love? Or just call it quits:(?