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Long distance relationship
| Wed, 06-23-2004 - 7:07am |
I met someone on an online dating service, 5 days ago. We found that we have a lot in common, such as morals, education etc. We have a connection that that is different from any I've had before. He's easy to talk to and he's a good listener. He lives in OR and I live in GA. I've never done this before. We want to meet. Who should make the first step? How do we keep the relationship going when we don't see each other?

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We'll just have to agree to disagree...I would not want to invest all that time and energy in talking online before meeting someone, only to have it fizzle when you finally do. But everyone has to do what they are comfortable with.
Sheri
I met my current boyfriend and my last (who was international LDR) on line. Relationships, local and LDR, will only work if both people are committed to them. LDR have extra issues associated with them and these should be taken into consideration before deciding to get involved in one. Plenty of LDRs work, some don't.
My current bf is local and we met within a week of the initial contact - but we'd spent a lot of time on line prior to that. But local is way easier. You can meet for coffee and if things don't 'fit', you say thanks and leave.
I do agree that 5 days is a little early to be considering a LD visit. However, if things continue the way they have been for you and you still have that feeling of connection in a couple of months, I would consider going then. Who goes to see whom is not really relevant - it's about who has the means at the time, IMO.
There are risks and these need to be taken into consideration, so you should always stay at a hotel, have someone you know able to contact you at all times (know your itinerary) and just use plain old common sense like you would when meeting a stranger (coz fundamentally, that's what you're doing).
Good luck.
Eve
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