long lost love....returns

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Registered: 03-27-2003
long lost love....returns
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 11:41am
I once dated a man many years ago who i truely loved. he was the love of my life and we loved each other very much. we had to break up as his family was not at all accepting of me, forcing us to seperate. we both didnt want to but at the time, when we were both younger, the pressure was too much. He gave into the pressure out of fear and I was left broken hearted. I let him go because i just couldnt fix it. He was unable at the time to commit to me.

so here we are today. years later and still very much in love. we would see each other occassionally over the years and both our lives went on but we never stopped loving each other. we remained friends and would call to say hi every year or so. well, i called him about 2 weeks ago to see how he was and what i got was more than i expected. we talked for hours about "US" and how we still felt thwe same way, etc. we talked a few more times on the phone and he asked to see me and i agreed. well the day came for our get together and it went....no word, no call, nothing. i was so upset. i waited a few days and called him but no answer. still no answer.

now here i sit, wondering what went wrong???? i know he is so fearful of going against his family but i told him that i would never leave him hanging in the wind and that i would be there too. I believe that if your family loves then they will love you unconditionally, and resoect any decision you make whether they like it or not. we are both adults and they have to respect his decision if he chooses me. now i am sad, lonley and hurt. feeling like i am unworthy. after all i have been through with this man i feel vulernable for pouring my heart out again and reliving this memory. i may be premature as i dont know where life will take us, but i cant stop believing that maybe we could make it if we both believed enough. does this make sense??? i truely love this man and i need to do something with these feelings. its been so long that i have loved him and i dont think i will ever stop, but i need advice on how to make this less painful. i wanted to see him face to face so we could really talk and make a decision together. i know his problem is fear. i told him to be his own man and choose his own life, because in the end it would be me and him at night , alone and his family would see that he is happy.......... what should i do??? please help.