Losing the momentum

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Registered: 06-21-2004
Losing the momentum
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Mon, 06-21-2004 - 1:02am


I started dating this girl back in early may. We were hanging out

nearly every weekend and sometimes during the weekday.

Lately, work has really

gotten her bogged down and i feel that i am unable to make any dates with her.

I backed off for awhile and let her do her thing and some space to breathe.

While she was busy with work, i contacted her once in awhile to ask about her well being and all.

Basically, its a disguise to see when i can ask her out again.

She just worked through the last weekend and i just asked her out for dinner sometime this midweek to chill a bit.

Havent got a reply yet though..

Am i rushing into it a little bit too soon here?

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Registered: 06-13-2004
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 4:44am
Doesn't sound like you are rushing things to me at all. Hey-at least you are "calling" her which (as you can read on alot of posts) is a concern on this board! Just don't call her too often and scare her away. Are you positive it's really work she's busy with? I mean it may very well be..just wondering. Now that you have given her the ball, i.e., asked her out-I would leave it up to her to reply back. If she gets ahold of you great, if not, maybe she is brushing you off. Good luck.
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Registered: 06-21-2004
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 5:31am


yup, shes really tied up with work for the past 2 weeks. Have been working

probably till 1am on most days and even till 4am last fri when she had a roadshow over

sat and sun.

got the news from a credible source on the inside, so i'd say its very much work related.

but yes, thanks for the tip on the 'ball in your court' thingy.

now i am contemplating if i should till wed afternoon before calling her

and ask if she missed my email.

its kinda like messing me up due to the fact we were seeing each other pretty often before june kicked in.

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Registered: 06-20-2004
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 11:42am
What is her line of work? She may be the type of person that is really driven by her career. How serious are you about her, and her for you? I would have said right away that she was blowing you off, but you cleared that up by saying you have a credible source that says she's been working long hours. I would give her a call, tell her you'd like to take her out to dinner as soon as she's got some free time, or even lunch, or ice cream, coffee, anything. Just let her know that you are thinking about her and to give you a call as soon as her schedule lightens up. But, don't keep calling over and over. One call, then let her call you. Good luck!
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Registered: 06-21-2004
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 10:12pm


Shes in marketing for a telco company.

It can get pretty competitive at times.

As to how serious i am towards her,

lets just say i would really like this one to work out.

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 10:04am
Let us know what happens with this one...I always enjoy the updates.
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Registered: 06-21-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 9:59pm


after waiting for close to 2 days, she finally replied.

shes ok for dinner provided nothing crops up at work. just keeping my fingers

crossed now...