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| Wed, 09-08-2004 - 2:00am |
He's a great guy. He's so caring and sweet. He takes care of me and is very responsible. I know he's a great person and father one day. I don't want to let him go. My friends and family all love him.
I don't know why but tonight I checked his email. He's given me his password before. He's really trusting. Anyways his exgirlfriend emailed him 3 times the last 3 months. He hasn't emailed her back because she's been trying to hear from him telling him she loves him and misses him. She sent picture of her and her daughter that's now 2-3 i guess. She looks like him. I don't know what to do. I should tell him I checked his email but I don't know what to do. How can he read those emails and not feel anything? Maybe he does maybe he doesn't. He doesn't tell me. What to do?

If he and you are going to have any kind of future together, you guys need to deal with this now. Otherwise, this may haunt him from time to time throughout his life. I think you need to talk to him and tell him to get the DNA. Otherwise, this woman is going to use this as an excuse to continue contacting him. AND, if I were him, I would hate to be sued for back child support 13 years from now. He needs to nip this in the bud now! For everyone's sake.
Pianoguy is pretty much "in agreement" with the previous posters. The DNA test is essential because it'll answer a lot of questions...and possibly..."put to rest" the possibility that your b/f is also A FATHER!
While I guess it's the Mother's choice if she wants to subject her daughter to the DNA test and draw comparisons (if any), YOU...YOUR B/F'S DAD...AND YOUR B/F will continue "going in circles" over this issue! Has your b/f asked the mother of this little girl if SHE OR THE BABY is expecting financial support?
Whether the EX from Japan is genuinely sincere (about sharing) those 'internet snapshots' or is trying to emotionally mess up your b/f's head...who knows? SO it's time for your b/f to ask the question: "WHAT'S THE POINT?"
Playing devil's adovcate here....how would YOU feel if the situation was reversed? You (supposedly) had a child by your b/f...and your b/f was involved with somebody else? Would you permit the DNA test? Or would you try to forget the incident and raise your child alone?
Something to seriously think about....huh?
Pianoguy