Lost in Love ( weird breakup) plz help.

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Lost in Love ( weird breakup) plz help.
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Thu, 09-16-2004 - 11:37am
ok this is my siutation if u can help me in anyway i would really appriciate it.

i met my ex in march and when we first met we didnt want anything serious. 3 months later were serious. now hes greek so # 1 i never met his family cause they were very strict on the whole greek thing. aka my big fat greek wedding. but. also hes never said i love you to anyone ,after 5mos of dating and 2 mos serious i said i love u and he said it back. now 2 weeks b4 our 3mos annv. he broke up with me. said he didnt wanna be tied down and he thinks we said i love u too soon cuz in 6mos he thougth we didnt know each other well when we really did. he said he didnt have the leisure of askin other people out but yet the night before he dumped me he said i love u yet he realized that nigth he wanted 2 be single. and wanted 2 be friends. now i love this man with all my heart. i actually saw him a cpl dayz later at the place we all go to where i met him i didnt wanna let him get in my way of happiness. i said hi to him and his cousin but ran away cause iwas gunna get sick.now the whole night my friend said he lept on leavin each room we were in. now if he broke up with me y is he leaving if i ignored him the whole nite and just said hi. is there anyway way u can give me advice on talkin 2 him and puttin things into perspective so he can see how much i care but still understand he wants 2 be single and maybe find a way 2 be friends with him in time? i love him dearly and would love him back. but im so confused on how he jus abrubtly broke up with me and cant even look at me . does he care still im not sure. please help.

lost in love

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 09-16-2004 - 2:28pm
He broke up with you and is avoiding you because he's thinking you're going to be clingy. Give him his space, he doesn't need closure- that's you who needs it. He knows where you are and he knows how you feel about him. If he's talking about not having the chance to date others, then he's afraid of committing and you don't need that. You guys are not on the same page and there's no point chasing him around and pounding how you feel into him. He knows.

I think you should just avoid him for the time being. Take some time to heal and then go out and date again. If he sees that you're just fine without him, he will be more likely to want to rekindle a friendship with you than if you're constantly trying to talk to him.

I really hope that you find someone who wants to have that commitment you are looking for.

Alison

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