Love and distance - - - help!

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Registered: 08-01-2004
Love and distance - - - help!
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Sun, 08-01-2004 - 3:30pm
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year, but been in a serious relationship for the past 8 months. We have both been in serious relationships before, but we agree that this one is definitely different. Unfortunately, i will be attending a school that is 4 hours away from him. It is only for this year (August - May), then, if things are still going well, i am going to attend a school closer to him. Originally, i had not planned on having a long-distance relationship, but I fell in love with him and he brought up the idea of staying together. Of course, I abosolutely agree with this idea now. He keeps telling me that we will stay together and that everything will be o.k. We will see eachother every 3-4 weeks and on holidays. I am very worried about the situation. I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I have this fear of him falling "out of love" with me being gone. He is very positive that we'll make it through, and i know i should be too, but I have a hard time doing so because my last relationship ended in an emotional mess. I need as much advice as possible!!!!
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Registered: 08-01-2004
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 12:08am
aww honey, i completly understand wher your coming from, my boyfriend and i only got to be together for two weeks and then he went to iraq and at first i ahd so many insecurities.. and even though its really hard sometimes if anything what we shared has grown so much deeper than any other relationship i've ever had, it has allowed me to not only connect with him on a physical level but i've gotten to know him beyond what i would have expected in the time we've been apart... as for him falling out of love? well through my experience i think he'd love you more for waiting for him, this is a two way thing you know and girls that are willing to wait like you are are hard to find ;) well i hope i helped you a little good luck!