Love and lying...? I need help

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Registered: 10-06-2004
Love and lying...? I need help
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Wed, 10-06-2004 - 11:16pm
HI there i'm looking for any help that i could get. I am in love with my boyfriend of a little over a year, and he says he loves he back, in fact he told it to me first. This past summer he thought that i cheated on him, however i only have been NOTHING but faithful because i really wouldn't want him to do it to me. His ex gf who was his first love lives in cali and hes in hawaii. i gave up talking to almost ALL of my friends to be wiht him and so he was supposed to stop talking to girls that just wanted to sleep with him. The other week i found out that since this summer he has been writing to his ex and some other females wiht a secret email account. i love him wiht all my heart and it really hurt finding it because we've made plans to be together forever...even though i'm only 20. i want to trust him so much but in the emails he sent to her he said he loved her, however she wrote that you love our old memories but its been so long since they've been together. He really wants anal and she loves it and well, he wanted her to come here and go to school here and all this stuff, i confronted him about it and well i have no idea what to do. i love him so much and i always believe him, even though i shouldn't. i keep telling myself this is the last time but it never is. He says he'll never do it again and everything, but its hard to believe him because he lies all the time. can anyone help me and give me some advice...i love him but i have no idea what to do. thanks
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-08-2004
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 11:28pm
This is SO simple. DUMP HIM! Why create for yourself unnecessary headache? Clearly, he is messed up! You cannot trust a person like that. He is useless! Move on and Be Happy!
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Registered: 04-01-2003
Thu, 10-07-2004 - 12:15am
I understand what you are going thru, went thru that a year ago and nearly killed myself in the process. The only good that could come this type of relationship is more lies and deceit. If he truely loves you he wouldn't be doing this behind your back.

the most important thing in a relationship is trust and he doesn't deserve yours.

Don't make the mistake I made by staying. Run don't walk