Love interest turns out to be Professor!

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Love interest turns out to be Professor!
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Sat, 10-30-2004 - 8:49pm
I find myself very interested in this guy, turns out, he's a professor...

We met at the place where I work, and then the next few times he came, he always gives his gorgeous smile and comes over to my work counter for assistance. I was already very interested in him then. Only when we started really talking that I found out he's actually a professor in my school. He's new this year, fresh from grad school from another state, around 28, new to the area, no girlfriend, doesn't teach me (I'm 20)-- though I still take courses from his department (not my major's).

Since I found out about that, it's been a few weeks, I see him now and then, mostly at work (but cos of the nature of my job, only briefly), and one time ran across him in the department (he smiled at me and said hi, didn't talk cos i knew he was rushing to a class), and, the more I see him around, the more he occupies my mind... Seeing him around is not enough, I really feel as though there's chemistry. I want to do something... but something more natural and appropriate... What should I do???


Edited 10/31/2004 11:23 am ET ET by love526

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Sat, 10-30-2004 - 9:48pm
Since he IS a professor and you ARE a student in that school, the policy applies. It doesn't matter if he is or is not YOUR professor. His politeness and interest could be just that and you're looking too much into it. He may find you attractive and wants to chat a tad during his breaks. Just accept it and look for a guy who is not a professor in your school.
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Registered: 10-27-2004
Sat, 10-30-2004 - 10:48pm
Well at least you actually met him that's a good thing congrads.
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Registered: 10-30-2004
Sat, 10-30-2004 - 11:40pm
I agree that is the best way to deal with this, well, the safest at least... But I just think there may be something that can done about this... Cos rules are Dead and We are Alive... now especially if the professor is not Her professor, then shouldn't we allow some flexibility and let our Heart be the guide?


Edited 10/30/2004 11:55 pm ET ET by love526
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Registered: 10-25-2004
Sun, 10-31-2004 - 12:15am
To say the least, that is just wrong.....no. But right now, I'd let it be. I mean he's a professor at a school you're attending not as a nontraditional student, but as a 19 year old going on 20 who is crushing on this guy who's 10 years older than her and a professor in her department. It's not a good idea for the time being. Maybe after you graduate or something..... Besides, with your current ages, quite frankly, if he is wanting to date you partly due to the possible fact that he can't get a date with a woman closer to his own age, there's something seriously wrong with the guy.
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Registered: 10-30-2004
Sun, 10-31-2004 - 12:30am
True, but he's new to the area, just came to the u.s. few years ago and was in another state before this... So, it's understandable that he may not be dating someone right now... So that kinda makes me think I may have a chance...
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 10-31-2004 - 1:32am
If he takes the risk of dating you, then he is taking the risk of permanently damaging his career. He knows the rules and guidelines of the institution. I highly doubt he is going to break them.

You may have a crush on him but has he expressed any interest in you?

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Sun, 10-31-2004 - 8:04am
You say flexibility...hmmmmm. What about his job and career if he decides to take the risk of seeing you as more than a student. He could loss his license as a professor and vanned from teaching ever if your romance comes to light. Beside, he knows the rules and I doubt he'd jeopardize his career for a young student.