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| Wed, 01-24-2007 - 9:43am |
Sorry this is kind of long but I really could use some advice ....or reinforcement I guess.
Back in September I started working a part time job and I met this guy (Mike) who I was really attracted to. After I had worked there a few weeks I started hanging out a lot with my co-workers including him, and from the very first time we all hung out I could tell he was interested. But I kept my distance because I knew he was messing around with another girl who worked there who had a boyfriend. The second time we all hung out I got pretty drunk and ended up making out with him but that was it, after that we just remained friends. I still hung out with the co-workers including him quite a bit but nothing else ever happened between us because I knew he was messing around with this other girl. After a few weeks he started calling and texting me more and wanting to hang out. We always were very flirty with eachother and he was super affectionate (rubbing my back/leg, holding my hand, buying my drinks etc.) but nothing more happened, not even kissing. After about a month of just hanging out the other girl got engaged and he broke things off with her completely. We started hanging out even more and eventually started dating. Things were good, he met most of my friends, we had so much fun together and we spent a lot of time together both with friends and by ourselves...drunk and sober! I had a feeling though that he wasn't telling me everything and after two months and hearing some rumors from ppl at work I confronted him. The rumors were not true but he admitted he still had feelings for this other girl. That he liked her alot and that she had started calling him again as of a few days ago even though she was still engaged.
I broke it off and told him that I wasn't going to be second, especially not to her but we remained friends since we had to work together. Since then he began hanging out with this girl again, she is telling him she is going to leave her fiance and that she doesnt want to get married but I know she is not going to,if she was going to she would have done so before she said yes. This girl is trash and I have no respect for her. I have gone out a few times since then with all of our co-workers and of course he has been there. The first time we all just hung out and had a good time but the other girl was there with her fiance and I could tell he was really bothered by it but he still was laughing and having a good time with me. on my way home I talked to him on the phone and he told me he missed hanging out with me. I gave some smart ass response and blew it off because I knew he was drunk and probably just saying it because this girl had been there with her fiance. The second time we hung out a guy I was kind of seeing (Dave) came out with me. I spent most of the night talking to Dave and pretty much ignored Mike. Afterwards we all did afterhours however and Dave just went home. Mike had stormed off from the bar as soon as we all walked out so I called him (i was kind of drunk and dumb) to ask if he was coming for afterhours. At first he was like I don't think so but wouldnt say why but I kept pushin him to answer why and he finally said "because I still like you and tonight was just really wierd. i was really jealous". I again just kind of blew it off by saying well now you know how i feel when you hang out with her. Then just told him to come over, that Dave was not even going to be there. So he said okay and we hung out and he was super flirty and pretty much only talked to me all night. He was acting like he always did but I held back, he tried to kiss me a bunch of times but I would not let him. However, by the end of the night I gave in and kissed him back but that was it.
Anyway to make a long story short my bday was last week and he has been talking to me/texting me a lot since then. He wants to take me to dinner at a really nice restaurant for crab legs (not cheap) and wanted me to come out with him and our other co-workers on my bday. we ended up hanging out on my bday and had a great time, it ended up just being me and him and my friends. i got pretty drunk and made out with him but that was it....he stayed the night with me but slept on the floor until the morning when he came up and cuddled with me all morning. even called into work (which he never does) so he could stay with me. he told me again that he misses me...misses seeing me and being around me and that he likes me. i asked him what he wants from me and that i didnt know what to do with him and his response was I don't know, I don't know what to do with myself most times. I know and I'm pretty sure he knows (although he may not have fully admitted to himself) that this girl is never going to leave her fiance for him. She keeps telling him she is going to break it off and then never does. I know he cares about me but he just can't seem to let go of her. He does seem to be coming to his senses though, I put in my two weeks at the job and I told him that, that same night we all went bowling and he said he was quitting too. I also noticed that day at work he didnt talk to the other girl at all which is not the usual. I don't know if he really truly misses me and is just realizing he wants to be with me instead or if he is just realizing she is never going to leave her fiance or both.
I put my two weeks in so that I would not have to work with him anymore and decided that I was going to stay away from him but now its like all the sudden he is doing the same (distancing himself) with her and trying to talk to me even more. He said he was going to quit too and told me AGAIN that he misses me. he is taking me out for my bday dinner this friday and wants to meet up with my friends after and is all excited about it.
what do I do? what do i think?? so confused!!!!!!!!
