This love triangle is killing me... help
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This love triangle is killing me... help
| Mon, 05-03-2004 - 4:09pm |
This is kinda long, please bare with me:
I started seen a friend of mine August of last year. We realized we had feeling for eachother and started seeing eachother outside of our friends group. The problem between him and i is that not too long ago i dated his sister's bf when they had split-up. His sister and him are back together and actually got married this past month, but she can't get over the fact that her bf and i dated so the relationship with her brother is basically prohibited. We saw eachother a couple of times in August last year but his sister was giving him a hard time because she suspected we were dating, and he told me it would be best to stop before any strong feelings would develop, and we did. We remained friends.
Around November of last year in class i met a guy and we started seeing eachother. Around that same time i took a trip with church and my group of friends of which the guy i first mentioned was in. That weekend our group stayed at a separate hotel and shared a room. I share a bed with him and that was the first time we were intimate. After that weekend i was very confused and well he called me and talked to me and this time we both agreed that we couldn't be together and that what had happened was a mistake.
I continued going out with the guy I met in class, and now we are still together. The problem is that near the end of November he came back into the picture and wanted to give us a real try. I still had feelings for him and said yes. December i broke up with the guy from school and we agreed we were gonna stay friends, but i found myself missing him and by January of this year we were back togethe, so now im seeing both.
Maybe someone in my shoes would think that im in a very good position, but i can't agree. I care about this two guys too much and i don't want to hurt either of them. I think about who i should stay with all the time, so i spend a lot of time very depressed. I've tried to leave the one that was once a friend on many occasions but we always get back together. No one in our group of friends knows that we have been seeing eachothe for the past what 8 months or so, but now he is being very obvious and wants people to know about us. We had decided to leave things quiet because of the family problem and because we wanted to see if we would work out as a couple. His mother knows about us and his sister suspects that we are together. I like them both but with the "friend" it seems like it would be too hard for it to work out, and with the other everything is very simple but im afraid of getting bored like i sometimes do and leaving it all. I would appreciate any out-put on this, and thanks in advance for your opinion and advice.
I started seen a friend of mine August of last year. We realized we had feeling for eachother and started seeing eachother outside of our friends group. The problem between him and i is that not too long ago i dated his sister's bf when they had split-up. His sister and him are back together and actually got married this past month, but she can't get over the fact that her bf and i dated so the relationship with her brother is basically prohibited. We saw eachother a couple of times in August last year but his sister was giving him a hard time because she suspected we were dating, and he told me it would be best to stop before any strong feelings would develop, and we did. We remained friends.
Around November of last year in class i met a guy and we started seeing eachother. Around that same time i took a trip with church and my group of friends of which the guy i first mentioned was in. That weekend our group stayed at a separate hotel and shared a room. I share a bed with him and that was the first time we were intimate. After that weekend i was very confused and well he called me and talked to me and this time we both agreed that we couldn't be together and that what had happened was a mistake.
I continued going out with the guy I met in class, and now we are still together. The problem is that near the end of November he came back into the picture and wanted to give us a real try. I still had feelings for him and said yes. December i broke up with the guy from school and we agreed we were gonna stay friends, but i found myself missing him and by January of this year we were back togethe, so now im seeing both.
Maybe someone in my shoes would think that im in a very good position, but i can't agree. I care about this two guys too much and i don't want to hurt either of them. I think about who i should stay with all the time, so i spend a lot of time very depressed. I've tried to leave the one that was once a friend on many occasions but we always get back together. No one in our group of friends knows that we have been seeing eachothe for the past what 8 months or so, but now he is being very obvious and wants people to know about us. We had decided to leave things quiet because of the family problem and because we wanted to see if we would work out as a couple. His mother knows about us and his sister suspects that we are together. I like them both but with the "friend" it seems like it would be too hard for it to work out, and with the other everything is very simple but im afraid of getting bored like i sometimes do and leaving it all. I would appreciate any out-put on this, and thanks in advance for your opinion and advice.

Are you exclusive with either one of these men?
And if you are...who is going to become "the odd man out?"
You sound like a lady who wants the best of both worlds...and inevitably, you might be the person who ends up holding the short straw! Reference an old Lovin' Spoonful tune called: "Did you ever have to make up your mind?"
Cuz right now...you're not being very fair with either one of the men you're seeing.
Pianoguy