Love/Hate Relationship..?
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Love/Hate Relationship..?
| Sat, 08-14-2004 - 3:05pm |
Does anyone believe in the "love/hate" relationship scenario?? This man and I always tease each other, but I'm almost positive he likes me, and I like him. We got together on his birthday, things were pretty good, but later on something happened to cause another "hate" part. He has also told me to F off but soon said "You know I was only kidding etc etc" and hugs me and tries to kiss me.
I know this probably isn't the healthiest relationship, but we aren't actually "together" yet. Is there any hope for us??
I know this probably isn't the healthiest relationship, but we aren't actually "together" yet. Is there any hope for us??

We work together but its not often lately. I think he might like me. we seem to flirt. some examples..
My first real encounter with him that might have been flirting... we were at an afterbar.. he had some wierd fan type gadget and kept sticking it by my head..I was layin on a couch.. kept hittin at him to quit.. finally said f--- u... he said maybe later.. I stupidly said he wasnt my type...
I also found a personal add for him.. and questioned him on it..givin him crap.. he said it was a joke his friends played.. I of course didnt buy it etc.
I invited him out for my bday.. he said he had to work at the bar.. but that I should come there... I did for one.. when i got there he acted like.. "oh man,you".. kinda thing.. then smiled, wished me happy bday etc.
At work one day he had a floor cleaner machine.. pretended to try to run me over.. was like.. "damn it i missed".. I turned and raised my fist at him.. he just smiled at me...
One Sun At work one day he had a floor cleaner machine.. pretended to try to run me over.. was like.. "damn it i missed".. I turned and raised my fist at him.. he just smiled at me...Anyway..sorry this is so long.
Recently it was his birthday..my friend came home from minneapolis (moved there recently) and we went to the bar where hed be.. all was cool.. he was kinda drunk.. but chatted with us..then told me he had to go request a song.. ended up being "Take me out" by franz ferdinand.. then when she and i were playin darts he invited us to his afterbar party (11:30 mind you only). she said she didnt want to be out that late.. i kinda said the same.. but she goes.. oh u can still go.. he said i should.. told him id see..as i didnt wanna be out that late on a tues either.. he told me to think about it..
When she wanted to leave about 1230 i went to tell him we were leaving.. he totally grabs me..he was like waht u arent coming over? i said it was late for a tues.. he grabs me playfully..tries to pull me downish..goes.. hey while ur down there etc... anyway.. i agreed to at least stay a while longer... then she left.. and he was pretty much all over me from then on.......
once when hhe made a sexual suggestion and i told him yea sure u wish etc.. he was like fine F--- you leave... i was like what?? excuse me? and he repeats it.. i was like fine ok.. so i go to the bathroom.. then towards the front to leave.. and hes standing at the entrance by the atm.. (i had gave him a lil backrub while he was sitting at the bar) i told him i hope u enjoyed ur backrub.. he goes.. what? you'r leaving?? "yea you told me to F--- off" ,,, "oh u know i was kidding... i was just messing etc etc.. u know i didnt mean it.. then he grabs me again.. bein all nice.. i told him to say i'm sorry.. he did.. then tried to kiss me.. but i gave him the cheek..and he did that...
after that all was good again.. he was all touchy feely.. also told me he was "really bummed that his friends from home didnt call him at all.. was really really bummed..and was telling me this in confidence" etc... later b4 bar close kissed me and stuff (during the song i want at my wedding mind you!! (firehouse) .. he rode with me to the afterbar...all was good..everytime he went outside to smoke i went with him.. he was kissing me at several points...
then he went to use the bathroom upstairs.. and i went to check on him after a bit (he was kinda stumbling a lil) he was sittin at the botom steps.. tells me to come by him.. and shut the door.. we start makin out.. i was in a wierd mood and for some reason didnt want him goin up my shirt.. and he got all.. ok fine.. i wont touch u then.. i was like no.. i just mean take it easy.. anyway..
he went upstairs to the bathroomm. after a while i could hear him puking.. so i went to see if he was ok.. was bein all sweet,, rubbed his back... anyway.. i go sit on the couch and he comes by me.. (he brushed his teeth and used listerene) we start makin out again.. and i let him get a lil farther.. we lay down and are makin out and all.. then after a while i could tell he was about ready to pass out.. so i pulled away a bit so he could just pass out...
a while later.. hes out cold.. and some friend (girl) comes up there and starts hitting at him and hollering for him to get up and come back and party cuz its his bday et etc.. (its 4am by this point).. he wakes up.. she jumps on him.. with me next to him!! starts grindin on hima bit.. and tellin him to get up etc.. (she was drunk too) he says he just wants to sleep etc etc etc.. she says shes gonna go get water to dump on him..
. i suggested she leave him alone and when she didnt back off and go away..i dumped it on her.. and then got into a little fight with her a bit.. he says to quit and breaks it apart..then he was like.. u both should just go downstiars~~~~~!!! I said..ok you seriously want me to go??? i couldnt believe it... was like what the hell ?
he said yea... i wanna sleep its my bday im drunk.. just leave... i was like are you serious?? its really late.. thats totally rude... he just kept sayin he was tired.. and somethin about not liking "the work thing" i was like.. u didnt have a problem with it B4!!! i did ask him if she "was something to him" he said no shes just a friend... but seemed mad that i was fighting with her..
SO.. yea.. a long story i know.. what is a girl to do??
The behaviour is pretty childish - name calling, being treated badly, getting drunk to excess, getting into physical fights.
You really want to be a part of that? Why would you want to fight for a guy who treats you badly and tells you where to go? Wouldn't you prefer a guy who treats you well ALL of the time, not just when it suits him?
You can do much better than this situation. He's not the only guy in the world. Let someone else put up with his bad behaviour.