Low Budget Dating - Again?? Need Input

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Registered: 12-28-2004
Low Budget Dating - Again?? Need Input
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Wed, 10-17-2007 - 3:37pm

Even though I can say I resisted dating yet another guy that clearly makes less money than I do and is on

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Wed, 10-17-2007 - 6:14pm
I dont think you are being unreasonable by trying to think of different ways to spend time under $20.
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Registered: 12-28-2004
Wed, 10-17-2007 - 7:45pm

You know I like your words "would rather be out in the fresh air walking than indoors at home".

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Wed, 10-17-2007 - 8:11pm
I am 45 and I hope to reenter the dating world sooner than later.
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Registered: 12-28-2004
Wed, 10-17-2007 - 8:40pm

After my experiences with men I decided that if a guy is in worst financial position than myself, then there is a very strong reason: addiction, bad choices, irresponsability, mental/emotional issues etc. and that I need to just keep moving.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Wed, 10-17-2007 - 11:22pm

I think your instincts to not let him hang out at your apartment are very good. I know what you mean about your apartment being your sanctuary. In my last relationship I allowed the man into my apartment on the third date, even though it didn't feel right to me, and somehow I ended up feeling the whole relationship was rushed. Maybe I never really got a chance to catch my breath after that. Taking your time is the way to go!


As far as the finances, I too have found that when a man has serious financial issues there are often emotional/psychological issues as well. Proceeding with caution is a good idea.


That said, I agree that there are so many things you can do very cheaply on a date and you can have a really good time. Just taking a long walk can be really nice.


iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2004
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 12:17pm

Thank you, thank you Stephanie for your reply.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2006
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 3:04pm

He doesnt appear to be rushing things, based on what you posted.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2004
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 3:19pm

Well...I kind of want the "dance" part since I have not really dated that much.

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 1:45am

I think that you go out your way to "accommodate" your cheap dates,