Lure of a married man article
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Lure of a married man article
| Mon, 03-05-2007 - 12:40pm |
The article presents interesting topics and makes a point about how a person can get lost in this fantasy world. At the age of 18 I had an affair with a married man who was expectng his first child. We worked together and had a great time with one another for about 8 months. The night his daughter was born, we spent the night with one another (but that was the only time that it was all night). He was the "tall-dark and handsome" type, sweet and kind. I did not plan on falling for him, but I did and hard. He said he loved me, and this led me further into the affair. Soon the affair ended. I was very hurt, but I cannot say, even today, that it was a mistake. I would still go back and do this again. After 20+ years, we are still friends, yes we still flirt with one another, he is still married (so am I) and we still love one another. Sometimes time stands still. There was a lure to him, not that he was married, and many of the topics presented can be found in any adult relationship (without the wife issue). The "other man/other worman" is not such a bad place to be...just be prepared for the feelings that come with it.

Interesting post. And I'm curious... you say being the other is not a bad position to be in, but what about if you were deeply in love and found out the love of your life cheated on you. How would that make you feel? What about remorse for hurting another human being, even if you don't know them?
I can't help but to think that it's not as easy as it can be made out to be...
I've really seen people get FLAMED - big time on iVillage for OW/OM type posts...I think that it is hardly the ideal, not many make it a point to be involved with a married man/woman, but it's easy to say that you would never <>
I think it is an interesting topic also. I think that many, many more men & women are unfaithful in their marriages than anyone would believe/admit