Making the First Move
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| Thu, 03-11-2004 - 11:05am |
Met a guy at a club on Friday. He asked for my # which I gave him, but I didn't take his. He called Monday, we talked about 20 minutes or so, he suggested getting together sometime this weekend. The thing is, no lie, no games, I really am pretty busy this weekend. I already have plans for Friday evening. My best friend is in from out of town and I wanted to see her before she left, but she doesn't know if she's leaving on Sat. or Sun. which affects when I see her. I told him that I would like to, but I didn't know what my weekend was looking like because of my friend. So he said something ambiguous like "well, I'll talk to you later this week and maybe we can set something up."
Did that mean he would call me back, or should I? So far he hasn't called. I told myself that if he didn't call me by early evening Thursday (tonight) that I would call him. But a) I'm kinda chicken and b) I don't know if I should? Part of me feels like I should call to show my interest, since I was the one who didn't know what was going on, but part of me is skeptical about pursuing a guy in general. Did he mean he would call me, or am I supposed to call him? If I do call him am I supposed to plan the evening? Is dinner a safe choice?...it seems like such an appropriate first date, but I don't know if that's "outdated" or whatever.
Help!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
K

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Hey K
I would call this guy up by tonight and tell him the reason why your BZ is that your best friend is in town and you weren't sure what day she was leaving this way he knows that your interest and that you weren't making an excuse up of not seeing him he will understand and appreicate that you were straight forward to him and I would go with dinner its a safe bet but this way you can meet him and get to know him better and then go your seperate ways of whatever have fun and good Luck!!
I would wait until your plans with your friend are firmed up, then call him back and say "I can't do it this weekend, but next Friday would work great for me", or "It turns out I'm free Sunday night if that works for you", then let HIM take the ball from there!
Sheri
Northwest, good advise! (although I still hope he calls first!)
Truelove, yes...I'm out there in a major way! I did post about the non-jitters, and yes, that was a different guy. I have no doubt there will be jitters when and if I go out with this guy!! =)
After working myself up to a near panic-attack, I called him. I can't express how difficult that was for me. But yea!!
We have tentative plans for Sat. night. The thing is, he has a reception he's expecting to get out around 8:30 or 9. That ruins dinner. :( I'm so uncreative and it's so freaking cold, I can't imagine what else to do....but we'll work on that later.
I called, he was grocery shopping (i.e., not just sitting in the house not calling me). He, again, asked what my weekend was looking like! Good sign, right? So HE is supposed to call me Sat. afternoon (what a relief!) and we'll take it from there.
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Jilly - funny, that was my nickname on another message board once. Well, this question's for everyone, I guess. Do you think it's weird that our plans are not definite yet? I'm such a planner I feel like everything should already be outlined, which makes me wonder if he really wants this date. Am I freaking out?
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