Making the First Move

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Making the First Move
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Thu, 03-11-2004 - 11:05am
Of course, there are many conflicting opinions on whether or not women should make the first move when meeting a guy. I'm interested to see what the consensus is on this board! Here's the deal:

Met a guy at a club on Friday. He asked for my # which I gave him, but I didn't take his. He called Monday, we talked about 20 minutes or so, he suggested getting together sometime this weekend. The thing is, no lie, no games, I really am pretty busy this weekend. I already have plans for Friday evening. My best friend is in from out of town and I wanted to see her before she left, but she doesn't know if she's leaving on Sat. or Sun. which affects when I see her. I told him that I would like to, but I didn't know what my weekend was looking like because of my friend. So he said something ambiguous like "well, I'll talk to you later this week and maybe we can set something up."

Did that mean he would call me back, or should I? So far he hasn't called. I told myself that if he didn't call me by early evening Thursday (tonight) that I would call him. But a) I'm kinda chicken and b) I don't know if I should? Part of me feels like I should call to show my interest, since I was the one who didn't know what was going on, but part of me is skeptical about pursuing a guy in general. Did he mean he would call me, or am I supposed to call him? If I do call him am I supposed to plan the evening? Is dinner a safe choice?...it seems like such an appropriate first date, but I don't know if that's "outdated" or whatever.

Help!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

K

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 03-12-2004 - 1:30pm
No, I don't think it's weird that you don't have specific plans yet. Because you were the one that had the tentative plans with your girlfriend, remember? So it's possible that if you had been free and clear when he first asked you, you would have a firm date planned by now. You should relax and see what happens on Saturday afternoon. It's not a life or death situation, hon! He's just one guy... if things don't pan out with him, so what?

You'll know he's sincerely interested if he continues to try and make another date. And if not, there ARE other fish in the sea. Again, good luck, and chill out!

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