Making my guy miss me

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Registered: 05-15-2005
Making my guy miss me
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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 8:56am

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 9:04am
Please don't play games, that is where all the trouble usually starts.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 9:18am

Games are bad. What you should do is actually keep your life as full as if he wasn't in it. Make sure you still have time for your friends, accept invitations from them, don't wait until you find out what your bf is doing all the time before you make plans to do other things...

Basically, don't revolve your life around his. This is not about playing a "game", it's about maintaining your identity, and being your own person, living for yourself and not living for your bf. A guy worth your time will want a healthy woman who has her OWN life and doesn't drop absolutely everything to be at his beckon call.

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Registered: 05-15-2005
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 9:22am

I don't want to play games.. I just want to be natural.

 

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 9:45am

The guy gave you that advice because he has read one too many books, or maybe he likes to chase women.

You are on the right track, just be yourself and you will be fine.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 10:06am
The poster who talked about maintaining your identity is right. Definitely don't play games, but just have a life outside your boyfriend. If you spend time apart doing your own things, it makes your time together more special and real. Don't drop whatever you are doing when your bf calls, make plans with friends, family and by yourself. If your bf calls at 4 in the afternoon and wants you to go out at 6, if you already have plans, tell him so and don't go. These are not games, this is having a life and your own sense of yourself.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 10:55am
I don't think you should play any kind of games. How would you like it if he played games on you? Remember the golden rule: "Do unto other as you would have them do unto you." and follow it! Iri
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Registered: 10-17-2005
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 2:02pm
I think what your guy friend is trying to convey to you actually falls along the same lines of what everyone else is posting in response. When you have your own life, your own interests, your own identity... it usually follows that the person you're seeing will know that you have respect for yourself. Men don't truly respect women who will drop everything they have going on for them. It's sad to say, but they will usually see that as "hmmm... if she doesn't care enough about herself to have a life of her own, why would I want one with her?" In a roundabout way, I think that is what your friend means by the statement he made.