male "friends

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Registered: 08-10-2006
male "friends
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Thu, 08-10-2006 - 5:56pm
I have been in a wonderful relationship for about 5 years with one of my closest male friends (we knew each other way before we dated). THere is nothing that I can see that is lacking because we are so open with one another.
My issue: Before we started dating, a majority of my close friends were males. For the most part I was not really interested in ever dating any of them.
Unfortunately, I fooled around with one of them and stopped talking to him after I started dating my boyfriend-for a good reason. He contacted me a few months ago and we had the best, very innocent, 3 hour conversation. For some reason I still felt guilty talking to him. I think I still had certain kinds of feelings for him- but I never wanted to date him seriously. I told my bf that we spoke and he was alright with it, which made me feel a little better about it.
I really want to call him back just to catch up, it's been like 3 months of me debating whether or not I should call him, but I just don't know if I feel right about it. I think I'm afraid of where it could lead for me. We're both in long term- commited- going to get married soon- relationships and I just don't want a repeat of the past. I don't know if I can get over this feeling, but I love being just friends with him. So I guess I shouldn't call him back, but I don't know. I would hate to loose this long time friendship over something like this. It seems like such a small issue. What is the right thing to do?
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Fri, 08-11-2006 - 8:43am

Do you maybe

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Tue, 08-15-2006 - 1:01pm

Well if you're both in long term comitted relationships that are secure and loving why are you this

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