Man needs Females Advice

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Registered: 08-17-2005
Man needs Females Advice
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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 2:16pm
Here is my dilemma, my girlfriend who we have been serious for about two weeks and seeing each other for a month took her kids out to california to see their father and grandparents on the fathers side. We tried talking on the phone at first but the ex kept getting mad at her. When asked if She wanted me to call her yesterday she said she would call me and never did. She hasnt returned the voicemail I left today, should I be worried that we are in trouble? I told her that I loved her yesterday and she said it back, if she wasnt serious she would have not said it back correct? When we were talking earlier in the day I made a stupid joke asking her if she still referred to me as her boyfriend, she said yeah why wouldnt she and we continued talking on a normal basis, should I be worried that she took the statement bad? Am I just over analyzing this or are we in trouble?
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Registered: 08-17-2005
Wed, 08-17-2005 - 2:20pm
you have nothing to worry about. ur just over analyzing it. my parents are divorced and i know for a fact when my mom was dating her fiancee and she had to take us to see my dad she wouldn't talk to gavin (her fiancee). she really loved him, it was just awkward for her and gavin as well as overwhelming. don't worry, about how she feels, it's probably something of the similar nature. the only thing u need to be careful about is not being too clingy. she's obviously been in a serious relationship b4. give her her space. she probably wants to take things slowly to make sure everything works out for the better this time.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 08-17-2005 - 5:34pm

You're overanalyzing. I am sure this has got to be an awkward time for her being at her ex's family's home. Her ex is an idiot for getting mad at her for talking to another man since they are broken up but he's the one with the problem. Maybe he is hoping they will get back together or something. Regardless, your girlfriend is probably just trying to keep the peace by not flaunting calling you in front of the family. Don't freak out and get all jealous and clingy and don't say any more silly jokes. She is with you and will be coming back to you soon so just pick up where things left off.

I would suggest taking things a little more slowly, however. If you are serious after only two weeks, that is FAST. She might have some unresolved issues and taking your time is usually a good idea. You don't have to cool it, but just take your time and get to know each other more.

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Registered: 06-04-2005
Wed, 08-17-2005 - 5:41pm

I agree with the other posters.

She's probably feeling a bit uncomfortable, that's all. Being around the ex's family can be a little awkward to begin with. I remember when my ex-MIL first learned a had a new BF... She cried! It can be weird for everyone.

Just be patient, and let her call you when she can. When she returns, pick up where you left off and take it easy :)