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| Mon, 09-11-2006 - 6:57pm |
Does anyone ever end up marrying their first true love? I always hear people say that usually you end up falling in love a few times in your life, and the first time you fall in love you probably won't marry that person because you'll meet others. I hate that because I'm in love right now and he's my first true love and I hate thinking about it not lasting for marriage! I'm only a senior in high school but I've been with this guy practically all of high school, and I have thought about how I'd like to spend the rest of my life with him. Is this too early to think about something like this?

caryyy2...
Pianoguy's "first true love" occurred when he was 12 years old.
I fell pretty hard for J during a 2-week family visit to Arkansas. J (who was also 12) was a beautiful brunette, had a lovely smile, loved music as much as I did, and had family that knew mine very well! The first kiss we shared together was FANTASTIC!
Unfortunately, the LDR factor (I lived in Massachusetts at the time) killed any chances of a possible reconciliation. A damn shame because I think J would've have been a terrific wife and wonderful mom?
ANYWAY..
This is the reason why PG "occasionally gets negatory" when it comes to believing in the success of MOST LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS! .
See what happens when we "listen to our hearts"--------instead of our heads?
Pianoguy
Caryyy2, I'm not going to discourage you from marrying your first love. But let's put "love" aside for a minute and start thinking like a mature adult.
What do you think of your boyfriend's family? Are they stable? Do they posess the same values that you do? Are there any alcoholics, drug addicts, debtors in his family? If so, does your boyfriend make excuses for them?
What does your boyfriend want to be when he grows up? What do you want to be when you grow up? Can both be done in the same city?
How many kids does boyfriend want? How about you? How much money are you going to need to earn to buy what you want to buy in the future? Will boyfriend and you make enough?
Is boyfriend a drinker? A drug user? Are you a drinker or drug user? Does your family like boyfriend?
Think long and hard about the honest answers to these questions. If there are going to be any issues don't think for a minute that love conquers all.