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| Tue, 07-20-2004 - 10:42pm |
I'm married and have been seing a married man we have planned to leave our spouses n be together as a normal couple. We were not intimate until i decided to leave my spouse(i was in a abusive relationship for almost20 years). Now he coaxed a lot of my decisions n even though I'm glad i left I don't feel taht i'm in a better situation. He still at home even though the time for him to leave has not come yet it makes it very difficult now bcuz i'm more free than he is. He plans our future together and says we will be together but I;m feeling very confused cuz at this point i'm not sure if i should just walk away and just start new altogether.

I know it's a painful and raw time, when I went through it someone very wise said to change my perspective and see this time as a time to grow and change my life, to visualize what I wanted for myself. I thought they were nuts, but then I got it. After being in a long term relationship...who are YOU, apart from being someone's wife and someone's mom (if you have kids)...what are YOUR interests, YOUR hobbies, YOUR passions? This is an opportunity to explore the wonderful world of you. Women often let other people define them. Don't let that happen to you, you decide who you are.
When you figure out who you are and what you want (without defining yourself by a man), THEN you are ready to be in a relationship. Not now, not with this man. Good luck.
Get out of this guy's web and you will see the endless possibitlies. You deserve to be someone's princess, not someone's mistress. Find a guy who doesn't have a wedding band on!