Maybe I am too old for this......

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Registered: 10-06-2013
Maybe I am too old for this......
Sun, 10-06-2013 - 2:38pm

I just posted a response about this subject and realized that I could use some advice myself. I recently reconnected with a guy who is 12 years younger than me. He was very interested 4 years ago, but I was not, because he seemed very immature. Out of the blue, he contacted me two months ago through Facebook and asked me to meet him sometime for a drink. Initially, I was going to decline, but agreed, hoping that he had matured in some way. I've been told by several mutual friends, that this guy is inexperienced in the realm of dating and it may take some time to move things along. We have been texting/messaging for about a month and after much rescheduling, went out one time, two weeks ago. We had a great time(although,  he was really nervous at the end of the night) and made plans for the following weekend. Those plans were changed(by me), but we've continued to text and have both expressed the desire to go out again. The word "date" has never been uttered. After many bad dating experiences, I have learned that going out for drinks would not always be considered a "date" for some men. This man is no different. I have no idea what he is thinking.  He sometimes seems hesitant after plans have been made(by him) and there have been several last minute cancellations. I am patient to a point and am not sitting by the phone.  I have become interested, but feel like this is taking forever!  I would like to give him a gentle "nudge" towards the dating direction, but I don't want to totally freak him out. Any suggestions for a gentle "nudge" technique that may work in my favor?