Me n you, your momma n your cuzin' 2?

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Registered: 06-04-2006
Me n you, your momma n your cuzin' 2?
Fri, 06-16-2006 - 8:23pm

Hi, this one seems obvious, but I can't help but ask.
Is he interested or just wants a drinking buddy?

A college friend of mine--who I had a crush on freshman year--and I have been keeping in touch on and off for the past maybe 6 months. We weren't ever really close in college but we have seen each other over the past several years whenever a mutual friend of ours has get-togethers. We always have great conversations, he even met my ex with whom I was with for three years a few times.

In any case, our mutual friend had a very last-minute get-together last night and I noticed that this college friend wasn't on the e-mail list (he always was before), so I e-mailed him (not the 1st time: he had asked me to e-mail him in January and I did, but he was out of town so when he wrote back, I never responded.). My e-mail yesterday was like, "FYI, this is tonight--I know would want you to be there." I felt I had to forward him the message because our mutual friend was leaving the country for good.

In any case, of course he ends his response saying, "let's you and me go get drinks next week." (Which is what he wrote a while ago and I didn't respond to.) I wrote back saying I was only free on Mon. and Tues. and he said cool for Mon. It feels like all of our friends are coupled up and in this city, there's an ever-diminishing pool of singles. I'm thinking he ran out of drinking buddies. But why is he so damn persistent? It seems like if a man wants a drinking buddy, he shouldn't have trouble finding one at his local bar. Also, if he said "you and me" does that mean I'm not expected to bring a posse?

The reason why I'm not bouncing off the walls is that back in Jan., when he asked me to e-mail him so we can hang out sometime, my girlfriend at the party said that he told her the same thing! Which either means he's a big ho' or he was just trying to make friends. What do you guys think? BTW, she was flirting with him big-time even though she was just visiting from out of town. Also, what's up with asking chicks to e-mail you instead of asking for their numbers!?!

Should I just write this F-er off? (Sorry, I'm a bit bitter--just dated a guy for a month and found out I was his rebound!). I don't want to be bitter. I kind of want to give it a chance. Any and all thoughts welcome!