This means I never loved?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-27-2005
This means I never loved?
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Thu, 08-24-2006 - 7:01pm

I am getting attracted to Man number 1.....and wanting to come close to him, while being in love with man number 2, and man number 2 isn't willing to love me back or sees a future with me.....

Does it mean I never loved Man number 2? Does it mean that what I feel for Man number 1.... is only lust? I am scared of what is happening. If one is in love, one should not be feeling this way about another man right, even if that other man does not love us? Does it mean......I never loved Man number 2? I am doubting and questioning my own self now.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2005
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 12:08pm

i just ended a relationship with a guy i was talking and feel a lil down and up at the same time. i feel up cause im "free" but feel down cause i wish i had another guy to take his place and that means i have to go back into the dating world.

for you though, i think its fine to had two guys in your life, only have one as the boyfriend and have the other as a friend....your number 1 seems like the right way to feel about a guy. only if he loves you back. but your number two seems like a waste of damn time. why would he want you in his present but doesnt see you in his future? REPLACE NUMBER 2 with a better contsant....a potial boyfriend, just incase number 1 may break your heart....with lies and betrayl....

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 2:49pm

gal_adri25...

Pianoguy's first reaction...after reading your post twice was: "IS THIS WOMAN SERIOUS?"

I realize many women are fond of "analyzing everything"....but can't you just accept the fact that Man #2 had no "matching feelings" for you? Whether you were crazy about HIM or not doesn't mean diddly-squat! His interest in you didn't come the slightest bit close to MATCHING YOUR INTEREST IN HIM!

As for man #1...do either one of you do anything besides "go to bed together?" Depending upon your response (YES or NO)...it's pretty easy to figure out if what you have together is TRUE LOVE...or "UNREQUITED LUST!"

Pianoguy