Meant to be together

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Registered: 05-21-2004
Meant to be together
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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 1:13pm

I'm dating this teriffic guy. I've found my soul mate. It is the best feeling ever. I know we care about each other alot. There are only a few things that I am worried about. He has been engaged before. I dont know why the engagement fell through. It is a really rough topic to talk about. I'm a little bit worried that he won't ever get over his ex fiance. How long should I give him to get over his ex? I love my guy alot and I am willing to give him as much time as he needs but I would like to help him get over this hump. Any ideas?

I know are relationship is very strong and I know we care alot about each other. I get parnoid alot. It has to do with my past relationships. How do I over come this? I dont want to ruin my relationship with my guy.

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Tue, 05-01-2007 - 10:12pm
"Today was the first day that I didnt talk to him on email, phone or in person. It felt weird not talking to him but in away it felt kinda good." - good, go with that. Do you still feel you two are meant to be?
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Registered: 05-21-2004
Tue, 05-01-2007 - 11:40pm

"Do you still feel you two are meant to be?" Yea I do feel that both of us are meant to be together.

"It felt weird not talking to him but in away it felt kinda good." Through out the day I wanted to talk to him but I didn't. I had to be very strong about it. Let me tell you it was very hard but I proved to myself that I'm a stronger person than I thought I was. He needs to get a taste of his owns medicine.

After I saw him down the hallway today I got this achy feeling in my stomach like something was missing in my life. Its hard to explain it. Just like last week a friend and I went out to see a band. Well I didnt know she invited someone else who she is trying to set me up with. She didnt know that I was seeing someone. I pulled my friend aside and I said I cant do this. I am seeing someone and he is my first priority. Now your friend who you are trying to set me up with all I can do is just be friends with him and that is it. Well all night long I kept on telling her I cant do this. I cant do this. I had that same sick feeling in my stomach that I had today. As I am writing this I am getting this sick feeling in my stomach.

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Wed, 05-02-2007 - 10:29am
"After I saw him down the hallway today I got this achy feeling in my stomach like something was missing in my life." - I know that feeling - it's a "need". The word "need" has been maligned to be associated with "needy", but when you need a person, it is very consuming on alot of levels: emotional, mental and physical. It is not bad, it can be very good - especially if it affects both parties, but they have to give themselves over to it for it to work well. It's a feeling, like you experienced, that kind of takes over the moment. You probably didnt even feel like watching the band play. Eventually the pain will subside. Does this guy, the one who you have feelings for, know how strongly you feel about him?


Edited 5/2/2007 10:33 am ET by snafu2006
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Wed, 05-02-2007 - 6:42pm

"I know that feeling - it's a "need". The word "need" has been maligned to be associated with "needy", but when you need a person, it is very consuming on alot of levels: emotional, mental and physical. It is not bad, it can be very good - especially if it affects both parties, but they have to give themselves over to it for it to work well. It's a feeling, like you experienced, that kind of takes over the moment." I kinda no what you mean.

"You probably didnt even feel like watching the band play." No I didnt enjoy watching the band at all. I just wanted to go home.

"Does this guy, the one who you have feelings for, know how strongly you feel about him?" No he doesn't know how strong I feel about him. It has never been talked about. But the actions are speak louder than words for both of us(I believe thats the saying for it).

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