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Meet the kids?
| Tue, 01-27-2004 - 10:23am |
I've been with my guy for 4 months now. I am deeply involved with him. I have two teenagers that are 15 and 17 and he has a son that is 14. I have never dated a guy with kids before and I am not sure how to proceed with this. Me and my guy are awesome together and I really want to tell him how strongly I feel about him however, I think I want to see how things will go once we factor the kids into the equation before I give him my whole heart. He comes over my house and lately has been staying over every other night so my kids know him and like him and as my older son says "I'll take him out for ya mom, if he ever pisses you off" LOL but what I am really looking for advice on here is how to approach the subject of spending time with his son. He sees his son everyday after school and then goes home to his mother at dinner time and then he usually will spend the weekend days with Dad and maybe sleep over one night. I really want to be able to let his son get to know me and my kids and me get to know him before I lay too much on the line. Kids are the priority in our lives and while I know how my kids feel and what they think about my honey, I don't know what my honey has told his son about me, etc.etc. His son did sleep over my house one night. My honey and I went out and his son stayed at my house with my sons. According to my kids, they had a good time. But I didn't really get a chance to talk to his son. So after all this rambling, I would like to know what you all think about meeting the kids. Should I wait longer to mention it or do you think after 4 months of dating its appropriate to want to do something that involves the kids so his son can get to know me a little. And I am really not sure how to approach the subject either. Any advice, help, words of wisdom from someone who has been in this situation, would be greatly appreciated.

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It's hard for me to give any objective advice because I am so dismayed by your cavalier attitude towards forcing your teenagers to witness your sex life.
I never said wait until you are engaged.
Good luck - especially to your children - and I hope you reconsider - I never said they shouldn't meet them till engaged - please don't misinterpret to evade the real issues I raised.
I really feel sorry for your kids and for the way you rationalize your prioritizing having an orgasm over their well being.
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