Meeting for a drink, but he has a GF

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Registered: 04-22-2003
Meeting for a drink, but he has a GF
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Fri, 05-04-2007 - 12:24pm

I'm going on a date this Saturday with a guy (we'll call him "D") that asked me out a few months ago. At the time when he asked me out, I had a boyfriend and said I couldn't go, but that we'll see what the future holds. Well, my boyfriend and I broke up and I called "D" to see if he'd like to get together. He said he'd like to, and we're meeting for a drink on Saturday. The only problem is that now HE has a girlfriend. They've only dated for a few months, but I am very interested in him. How should I handle this situation without seeming like a home-wrecker or becoming the other woman?

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 05-04-2007 - 3:46pm

If you know that he's exclusive with another woman, then you need to cancel.

If you know they aren't exclusive, you're good to go.

If you don't know their status, find out.


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Registered: 11-30-2006
Fri, 05-04-2007 - 7:09pm
It's a little late now,you have already become the other woman. You need to find out from the guy if they are exclusive or not. If not, then you are in luck. If he commited exclusivity to her then it would be best, for you, to not see him again. If he cheats on her after only 3 months, he'll do it to you too.
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Registered: 03-18-2007
Sun, 05-06-2007 - 7:01am
If this is truly his girlfriend and they are exclusive, then you shouldn't go. Period.
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Registered: 10-14-1999
Sun, 05-06-2007 - 8:47am
If he is exclusive with the girl - and considers her his GF, then show him and his relationship the same courtesy and respect he showed you - remove yourself from the picture.

Toni

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sun, 05-06-2007 - 10:33am
you meant this for jillarino, right?
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 05-11-2007 - 3:22pm

does SHE think they're exclusive, does he mainly, is it casual


Don't meet him if he's involved with someone else, much better if and when you're both unattached, would you want your boyfriend to have a date with another girl

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