Meeting his Daugther

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Registered: 11-01-2006
Meeting his Daugther
Sat, 06-09-2007 - 2:38pm

Hey Everyone - Didn't exactly know where to stick this thread.....!

Background: BF and I have been together 7 months... He has an 8 year old daughter whom I have met twice (last night was the second time). It went really really well. Almost too well.

Here what I mean: I get the nagging feeling that for some reason, his daughter thinks I'm going to be her new friend or BABYSITTER. I swear she thought I was along last night so I could play with her. She called "Shot gun!" and wanted me to sit in the back seat - and all I could think was "Crap." (it was actually my fault cause I called shotgun when they picked me up). Then I SAT IN BACK. Ugh, I could KICK myself - what a moron. I think that's what did me in, honestly.

My BF texted me when they dropped me off after our "group date" and said his dauther said I am "way awesomer" than the first time we met.

I do NOT want to get stuck in kid zone, but I can't come out and say her dad and I are boyfriend girlfriend because we've discussed only easing her into it slowly because I'll be the first woman she's ever met that he's dated after the divorce.

How do I remain the adult figure and still be fun?
Honestly, can I go back a little and regain some authority in her eyes? It's so great that she likes me. I just don't want to end up in the back seat EVER AGAIN.....

HELP