meeting the kids

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Registered: 07-25-2006
meeting the kids
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Thu, 10-05-2006 - 10:27am
How long do you wait until you introduce the kids to your new love?
I don't have any however my boyfriend of 2 1/2 months has a 7 year old daughter, not living with him.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-05-2006 - 12:46pm

I don't have kids either but I have dated men with kids. I feel that I shouldn't meet them until my SO and I are pretty darn sure it's going to be a serious relationship with a good chance of a future together. I have met someone's kids as early as 2.5 months, but in retrospect that was too soon. I would give it more like 4-6 months, now. I have also dated someone for 5 months and never met his kids, because I wasn't sure about how compatible we were for the long run and didn't want to get attached to his kids or vice versa (he wanted me to meet them right away but I held off for that reason and ended up breaking up with him before we ever met).

Sheri

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Registered: 10-05-2006
Thu, 10-05-2006 - 8:19pm
I always used to be of the mind that kids should be met early... to see how compatible we were. The man I've been dating recently did not introduce me to his kids (he's widowed) until we had been dating for 7 months, even though he met mine (by happenstance) much earlier. He would tell me it was a sure sign of where our relationship was for him when he was ready for them to meet me. In hindsight, I am glad he waited. Meeting his kids had so much more meaning for me, knowing what it meant TO HIM.
The good news is we all get along GREAT!
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 10-06-2006 - 4:08pm

It's only been two months. Take the cues from him.

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