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| Wed, 06-28-2006 - 9:56am |
I've been dating someone for the past few months. We're going for a visit/vacation to my hometown (about 1500 miles from where I currently live and where he's from). By the time we go on the trip we will have dated for about 5 months.
This is my predicament: I don't see my family that often and would like to plan a lunch/dinner with each of them (parents are divorced) during our short stay (2 night) in town before travelling around to some other areas. My problem is is that he's ambivalent about meeting them and while I'd like for him to, he just says "it's up to you, I'm ok either way". I don't know, am I being silly for wanting to discuss this any further or should I just drop it and leave it up to how we feel in the moment when we're there? I guess if he feels ambivalent about it I feel weird asking him to come along as if I was trying to force something and just rather not feel like I'm dragging him into something. Perhaps he's just not wanting to say he wants to but really does? I guess I just feel irritated when someone says "I'll leave it totally up to you". It makes me want to respond in kind: if I meet my parents during the trip for dinner that I'd "leave it totally up to him if he wanted to come along or not".
Am I over-thinking/reacting to this? I find it irritating.

I doubt very much that he wants to meet your parents but is not saying so. I think it's probably the opposite--he doesn't really want to meet them but doesn't want to offend you by saying it outright.
I would make your plans with your parents and let him know that you'd love for him to join you and he is welcome to do so, but you're not going to make the decision for him.
Sheri