Men and Embarrassing topics?!?!?

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Registered: 03-06-2007
Men and Embarrassing topics?!?!?
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Sun, 04-15-2007 - 11:34pm
OK. I don't want to come across as a prude or anything but I really need to know if anyone else is or has experienced this. I am in my 40s and the last 3 men I have dated all have this in common: they have no problem discussing BODY FUNCTIONS right off the bat. I mean, there are some things that need to come with time, some topics that are just a bit too intimate to talk about until you know somebody a while, right? I had a man on the 3rd date, after a nice dinner in a very nice restaurant, COMPLAIN OF GAS. One fellow emailed me after leaving my house and told me of his frequent trips to the BATHROOM. I am starting to take this a little personal!! I am VERY proper in my discussions, never EVER refer to anything pertaining to BODY FUNCTIONS, and am actually quite embarassed when this occurs! These are not kids, mind you. One guy is 54!!! Am I coming across as SO comfortable to be with, that men feel they can just blurt out their latest bowel problem??? AM I TOO SENSITIVE???? Should I say something?? I mean, I am so embarrassed I can't even talk to my best friend about this. Is this a deal breaker? I mean, I just am totally perplexed about this. The guy I am writing about mainly is a successful businessman, good dresser, very mannerly, well-spoken, traveled, and for the most part a gentleman....UNTIL HE TELLS ME HE HAS GAS. I really need some replies, and please keep in mind that while this is funny, it really bugs me!!!

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Registered: 04-15-2007
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 9:19pm
I usually say something like "do I really want to hear this?". And no, you're not too sensitive, it's just some people out there think that anything natural is fine to talk about.
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Registered: 04-19-2007
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 10:58pm
Men LOVE to give way too much detail about their bodily functions, especially their bowel functions!!! I've been married for 18 years and my husband still occassionally feels the urge to give me information I have no desire to hear. When it gets too graphic, I just tell him that's enough....too much information. We live in a society where people think that free speech means holding nothing back. If this guy is this free with his personal info so early on, he'll probably always be that way, but it doesn't mean you have to take it. Tell him to save that kind of info for the guys; you don't need to hear it!!! You can also quickly change the topic to something drastically different so he gets the message. If he tries to steer the topic back to his bowel, keep redirecting him to other topics!!
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Registered: 04-15-2007
Sat, 04-21-2007 - 12:55pm
Well, but considering that Tira Banks discussed how she is getting "too much gas" on her show with somebody (Beyonce maybe?) and that clip was all over the place, everywhere on the internet? Maybe there are no boundaries any more. But I agree that when men discuss it in such details, it is offensive to women. Like other such "locker-room" behavior.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 8:11am
Yes, let us know what happens
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