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| Tue, 11-09-2004 - 5:21pm |
I have a wonderful loving, caring boyfriend who would do anything for me. He's what I always wanted. He's not 100% perfect, nor do I expect him to be. But there is one thing about him that I'm wondering if its normal, or if he's the only guy who does this...but he cries when he's weak. Not for everyday life, not for the things that are difficult in life, but when it comes to love, he's weakness is his heart. He cries when we have to say goodbye for 3 months at the airport and he has cried out of frustration involving the distance in our relationship. But it makes me feel like a man because when I hear or see him cry I almost feel embarrassed, so I cant even cry if I tried. I feel its a woman's place to cry more often than men or maybe I'm stereo typing...but its just seems more acceptable that way.
I've never seen a man cry like he does and I know a little part of it is that he is Italian, born and raised in Italy. They are definitely more emotional on the outside then most Americans...
Anyways, I need help in trying to understand this...any ideas or views of what I have said about the "crying" ?????
Sincerely,
Melissa

Thank you for your response. WhatI think is abnormal is the way he cries. Its not a sniffle here and there...he cries hard. I just think it reflects on his strength to handle his emotions and was just thinking that it would cause problems later on in our relationship or if this is coming from something else inside him. I didnt mea to sound like I questined his masculine side..but maybe i was a little..
But I have one friend who feels just like you do...I agree with both of you as well as my other friends. But cant seem to agree within me to know how I really feel about it. Does that make sense ? I feel like, " Am I being to hard" or "Do I really expect to find someone perfect" because I know I wont...does that make sense?