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Mentality Gap
| Thu, 10-11-2007 - 1:17pm |
The man I recently broke up with won't leave me alone. He was desperately trying to get me to be friends with him after the breakup, and I wasn't interested. We didn't start out as friends. I'm not in the habit of staying friends with my exes.

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A few things could be going on here:
1. he is very insecure and needs to know that you and he can be friends and he can touch base with you every now and then and maybe it leads to a reconciliation one day - this is why guys like to be friends with their exes.
2. he is being persistant because he is under a false impression that persistance like this is romantic and a woman is impressed with it.
3.he is a control freak.
If you state what you want out of life...which in this case is "no friends"...he has no choice but to accept it.
It's not over yet.
I vote passive-aggressive.
His trying to convince you to talk to him/be friends or whatever reeks of a guy that is manipulative. Things are not going according to his plan and he wants to rectify that. I'm afraid the only way to really get this guy out of your life is to be very upfront and blunt with him (if that is what you would like to do). However, if you decide to keep him in your life as friends or "other" don't be surprised when this behavior continues every time you don't follow along with what he wants. Sorry you have to put up with this! Yuk!
YG
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YG
http://twodatediva.blogspot.com/
yogagirl and vexer make really good points and offer valid suggestions on how to handle the situation. He has turned himself into a pest who needs to be dealt with in a very firm manner.
Thank you everyone for your responses. Hopefully, I won't have to resort to involving the authorities and to issuing threats.
Out of curiousity, have you ever texted back "go away?"
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