Messy Situation

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Registered: 07-13-2006
Messy Situation
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Thu, 07-13-2006 - 10:16pm

Ok, I dont even know where to start. I'll try. I have been seeing this guy for about 8 months. Well not really "seeing" because we hardly ever "see" each other. Anywayz, so Im dealing with this guy & I knew from day one that he has a girlfriend. At first it was cool, because I wasnt looking for anything serious. It was only supposed to be a one night thing. It has turned into a once a week thing. I was ok with that at first too. I felt like we were using each other. I had his cell # and I always had the option to call if I wanted to. I hardly EVER called. I would always wait on him. A couple of months ago he changed cell carriers and got a new #. He never gave it to me. When he calls he makes the # private. Anyhow, he usually calls every 3-4 days. Always. In the past 8 months there hasnt been a week that went by without him calling. Now as I sit here(day 11) thinking, obsessing, wondering, WTF??.

Last night my car was broken into and my cd player, amp, speakers were all stolen. I really hate to accuse someone but I am starting to think he possibly had somethin to do with it!! I mean he has been in my car alot of times so he knows what kind of system I had. I am so hurt. I mean maybe it was just random act. It just seems mighty funny out of all the cars we have in our yard, they or whoever chose mine. My windows are tinted real dark, so someone couldnt just glance and see in. Oh and none of the windows were broken. No forced entry. I recall giving him the code maybe once or twice to unlock the doors. I dont know what to think. I just dont want to believe that someone that I liked and trusted so much could possibly have done this to me. It's killin me that he hasnt called & that makes it even more suspicious.

He is the only man Ive been with in the last 8 months. I know I should not even be messing with him in the 1st place because he's already taken, but I cant take that back. I cant call him. Thats outta the question. I don't even know where he lives, we always meet somewhere. I know this sounds stupid, but could somebody shed some light on the situation. I just need advice. Oh by the way I'm 26 and he is 22. (if that makes any difference)

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Registered: 07-31-2006
Mon, 07-31-2006 - 4:25pm
If or should I say when he decides to call you, I personally would really try my hardest to walk away. Like I said before, I am in the same situation and I haven't been able to walk away as of yet... I tell myself take it one day at a time. I don't know your whole situation but in your post you said that you thought you two were friends but friends dont treat friends like that. Even if something terrible happened, it is still no excuse for not calling you, especially in 2006 where communication rules. He played you, it happens to the best of us. It is happening to me right now. I say in any situation, when the negatives start to out weight the positives, then it is time to move on. Ask yourself are you happy with the current situation, do you like the way you are being treated? If you answered NO.... then try to move on, but I know how hard it can be. Hope this helps.

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