Met brand new guy & he seems great!

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Registered: 10-14-2004
Met brand new guy & he seems great!
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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 1:59pm

So,,, how do I manage not to mess this up?????

He seems to be great so far.... His words are backed up by his actions,, there is a mutual physical attraction and there seems to be a high interest level from him.

We met last week at a local bar & I completely blew him off cause I thought he was married. (He was wearing a ring on his left hand ring finger but he claims that he just bought the ring & liked it & was wearing it on that finger. It actually isn't a wedding band... )

Then, my friends assured me he is not married (not that they knew him either but that is their take on him).
We met up again Wed nite & really hit it off..
And, we got together again last nite & had an enjoyable time.

We have an 'official' date Sat nite....

Any advice? Besides just being myself?

He is so good looking with such a great personality I just cannot see how he isn't a player.

And, even though he has told me many times he isn't married, I would like to believe him on that....... Time will tell? Unless anyone out there knows some surefire ways how to get this information??

-Stacey

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-05-2006 - 6:51am

Hi Stacey!

3 Suggestions from Pianoguy:

1. Irregardless of what your friends have told you about this gentleman...ASSUME NOTHING when it comes to whether he's married, separated or spoken for! He'll let you in on the personal stuff when (and if) he's ready!

2. Don't give him everything on your "first official date!" I don't have to go into specifics, but you know what I'm referencing.

3. If the date doesn't come together the way you're hoping...don't write the man off immediately. Depending a man's personality, interest and stress level...it occasionally takes us more than ONE OFFICIAL DATE to realize what a "great catch" a special lady (like you) can be for us!

TAKE YOUR TIME and HAVE FUN!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 08-06-2006 - 12:39pm
Do you have his home no as well as his cell? Will he invite you to see his home? Will you meet people in his life? Those will all be signs that he has nothing to hide
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Registered: 08-25-2004
Sun, 08-06-2006 - 7:38pm
Have I missed something? ( quite possibly) If her first official date is this Saturday wouldnt it be too early for some people to be invited to homes, meet close friends, and have a home number even in some cases?
I wear a ring on my finger too - it is my mothers and doesnt look like a wedding ring but it doesnt sound like his looks like one either. Why the immediate check out rules to see if he is lying already? Why not just give the benefit of the doubt and keep your eyes open as you would normally?
Maybe it is different for guys than it is for girls but I can definitely say that I do not always give out my home number for a while ( I have a kid though) and I definitely dont introduce friends and family or invite someone to the house until I know what is what and sometimes that takes a while!! In my book he could be ready to do none of those things and still be totally on the up and up and interested in her genuinely.