Met him IRL, now he's online!

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Registered: 12-14-2005
Met him IRL, now he's online!
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Tue, 01-10-2006 - 6:48pm
I went out with a guy with a guy I work with, had a good time and then about a week and half later he came to my holiday party because he "wanted to stop by." We are friendly at work, but don't see each other now b/c rotations have shifted. We both work A LOT. I couldn't understand why he wasn't asking me out sooner, and then went on match.com and saw that he had a profile there "looking to meet some great people" as he is new to the area. So, I decide to put a profile up, I need to get out there too! He sees my profile (as in the viewed profile section)...does he think I am no longer interested in him? Because I am! Basically, I don't want to contact him if he is not interested, but don't want him to think I am not interested. Does it appear desperate if I drop him a friendly line? I'm not a rules-kind of person, but how much truth is there to letting him pursue you if you are both very busy? I am trying to meet others, but this one was very intriguing, in many ways. The chance of just bumping into him right now is pretty low.
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 7:37pm

Some folks over at the OLD board have responded to this one... take a look. :o)


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Registered: 04-07-2005
Wed, 01-11-2006 - 11:16am

What do you have to lose if you contact him through Match.com? Just a friendly note indicating you noticed he viewed your profile.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 01-11-2006 - 1:40pm
I disagree (respectfully). If he'd wanted to contact her on match, he would have. Also, if he'd wanted to pursue the relationship IRL, he would have done that too. If he was shy or something, match would have provided a perfect situation to take it slow. I think it's an unfortunate case of "he's just not that into her".

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