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| Sat, 03-04-2006 - 4:05pm |
I met this guy at speed dating 2 weeks ago. I liked him the moment he walked into the bar. Anyway, we both said yes on our cards so we met up for dinner. After dinner, he wanted to go for some gelato and we ended up in his apartment... and pretty much shortly we arrived there we started making out.
I really feel the chemistry and I think he feels the same too. When I was leaving we kissed a couple of times and he kissed me on my forehead and I feel he is into me- correct me if I am wrong here!! When I asked if I would see him again, he said yes and he will call me when he gets back in town on Thursday (he is leaving for a business trip at the beginning of the week).
For once, I feel everything feels right. I would hate to think that he is dating another girl, although it is possible, especially we met on speed dating.
Ladies, what is your experience with speed dating? Do guys date a couple of girls at the same time?

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Thanks! That makes sense to me!
Another question is the when he'll call question. I saw him on Friday night and before I left I said will I see you again. He said yes and he'll call this Thursday when he comes returns. I've been feeling ok about this until my friend says that if he really likes me he should call over the weekend and not wait til Thursday... What do you guys think?
He's away at least Tuesday & Wednesday, but I have a feeling that he might be away on Monday as well. So after seeing me on Friday, my friend felt that he should call sometime in the weekend if he is interested.
He knows that I'm interested because I actually told him that I knew what I had to write on the card (a yes) the moment he walked in. Usually I wouldn't say anything like that, but at that moment it just came out! Too late now, but now I'm not sure if I sounded too keen!!!
What do you think?
My goodness, you have had 1 date - easy on the expectations please. From a man's perspective, your friend is dead wrong here. If you start to manufacture expectations that you believe he is OBLIGATED to perform as PROOF that "he is into you", you are setting yourself up for disappointment.
He clearly set an expectation with you that he will call you on Thursday when he returns from his trip. For men of honor, our word is our bond. See what he does on Thursday.
This is an excellent example of why men MUST take the leadership role in managing a woman's expectations. It is so easy for a woman's expectations to get out of control extremely fast. If we don't manage the expectations, failure is virtually guaranteed.
Word on the street: speed dating = players.
Doesn't mean that applies to this guy, but have no expectations.
He's likely dating others...so you should be too. For some reason chicks are sold on this one guy at a time thing and it sets us up for failure. I don't really understand it. If someone can explain to me why dating one guy at a time is a good thing, please inform. Guys are usually playing the field, although they might not mention this, because truth be told it kills the romance. But hello...reality check...until you have actually discussed commitment, it's probably not there.
Good grief darlin' take your time! Your friend is not right. At this stage of the game, it's perfectly fine if 1) he doesn't call you right away and 2) if he's dating others. If he doesn't call by Thursday when he said he would, THEN you can start to wonder whether or not he's really interested or whether he just wanted a make out session.
As for indicating your interest, I think he probably figured it out when you said yes to the date and made out with him in his house! Your response about saying yes to the speed-dating thing was pretty much irrelevant at that point dontcha think! :-)
Sit on your hands, do some other things to keep busy and hope he calls on Thursday. You have no idea what was going on this weekend - I myself was in town but so busy that I hardly had time to talk to my parents. It's not a big deal if he couldn't call you right away.
Certainly there are exceptions, in the form of naive people who are actually looking for a serious relationship, but to increase the odds, I follow this rule: you get out of something what you put into it.
Why throw yourself into a mosh pit of people who are comfortable holding 8-minute conversations while inebriated? Hey by the way, isn't that what fraternity parties are for?
I've had many friends who did it... and they did it just to expand their horizons and try something new. None of them were inebriated or doing the frat thing. So though I see your point with some folks, I don't think that rule applies to everyone...
Kerry
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