Mirror body language

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Registered: 06-06-2007
Mirror body language
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 6:02pm

So I went to an amusement park with a vast group of people.- including the man I'm interested in.

As we were waiting in line I noticed that our body language was absolutely identical, and the couple that was with us I think noticed it, too. However, I have no idea who positioned themselves first and who followed suit.

So I wondered- does it mean anything? Does it matter if I don't know who was copying whom?

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:40pm
Body language is usually subconsciously done when two people are interested in each other. It really doesn't matter who copied who, but some women want to see the man fall into place with them first.
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Registered: 06-06-2007
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 3:06pm

Thanks, snafu. I hate to sound ridiculously anal or ignorant, but just to clarify-
If only one person is interested then the body language won't mirror? Their stances will only reflect if they're both in tune?

Thanks again, so much!!

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 4:07pm
To elaborate on my post above, when both are interested in each other, the mirroring may happen by itself with both parties, but...when one party is knowingly interested in another, the interested party may start to mirror the other...either in an knowing effort to nonverbally communicate that he or she is interested or...unknowingly mirror. Many people like and trust others who "reflect" something of themselves (thus the term "mirror") so many people involved in sales, PR, marketing, or anything to do with the public do mirroring as part of their jobs. When you do this for years it becomes second nature to mirror and you don't even realize you are doing it.


Edited 6/7/2007 4:10 pm ET by snafu2006
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Registered: 12-03-2006
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 5:36pm
mirroring usually means you like the other person, not necessarily romantic interest. There're lots a books about how to make people like you and this is one of the techniques. You should try it, it works.
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 10:12pm
I agree it indicate romantic or general interest in a person.