Missing Pieces Making Me Unsure (Update)
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Missing Pieces Making Me Unsure (Update)
| Wed, 10-05-2005 - 3:52pm |
Hello all. I've just discovered some disturbing news about my "fiancee." As it turns out, he is still married to his 2nd wife as on May 5, 2005 and he is in the process of getting the divorce. I have all of the fiancee's contact information. Should I contact her or just end it with my fiancee. Please advise.

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I am so angry right now I don't know what to do. How about my ex now wants his computer back!
Basically, back in May, my computer died and I needed another computer ASAP because my job depends on it! I went to Dell's website to look for a new computer. He gave me a computer and said we can use that one for the house.
Well, on Wednesday, we broke up and I told him that I am on dell's website right now looking to buy another computer. He told me to don't worry about buying another computer and to keep it.
Now this morning he wants his computer back. What a jerk! Now I'm going to be without a computer for at least a week (possibly longer) until I can get another one delivered! I'll bet you he's upset at the fact that I was on yahoo IM last night and emailing my friends because he kept looking at the computer screen like "What the hell is going on here?!!"
Thanks hon but the thing is I can't wait for Dell to deliver the computer to me. He and I both know I need that computer to do my job!
But here's the update. . . I'm soo tired right now.
My ex just called me at my job and we were on the phone for an hour discussing this stupid computer and other trivial items. For example, he had the NERVE to tell me that he was offended when I asked him to pay 1/2 the security on the apartment SEVEN MONTHS AGO and he wanted to know why I didn't offer to give it back now. Honestly, I forgot about his security deposit! I'm not a landlord so I'm not familiar with these things . . . . In any event, I immediately send him an email this morning (before the phone call) telling him that I will give him the deposit on Saturday. So no harm, no foul . . .
Instead, he goes on an on about how if I would've moved in with him, he would never ask me to pay 1/2 the security. So I asked "Did you expect me to pay the full security AND the rent? We agreed that we would share all expenses equally?" He said no but that I treated him more like a client in a business deal more than a boyfriend at that time. I was perplexed because we were doing business - he just signed a 1 year lease on the apartment at that time!
Then he flies off of the broomstick about how I placed all of his belongings outside of the apartment door last night. He said the neighbor accross the hall saw everything and he feels embarrassed.
I won't bore you with the details on this petty dispute but suffice it to say he is wigging out big time over there. He told me that he is having an emotional meltdown and he apologized for that. The ex says that he hasn't sleep in 48 hours, he's like a nomad (sp) wandering around trying to find a place to stay (I thought he moved back with his mom), he doesn't want to leave me or the apartment he loved so well, yada, yada, yada. Like I said, he knows he f'ed up and now he's paying the price for lying . . . .
And, yes, he's letting me keep the computer and he's still moving out tommorrow.
Do you have a male friend that can be there when he moves out? I'd suggest you have some people around so this guy can't throw a tantrum or do damage (or steal) your property.
I made the mistake of allowing my exboyfriend to move his stuff out of my house without anyone around. He stole the washing machine.
As long as you entertain him in any kind of conversation, other than "Here's the time when you can pick up your stuff..." he will try every trick in the book to make you feel guilty, angry, sad and, ultimately, try to make you change your mind.
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Yeah Jilly this sux big time but I'll just have to do my best tomorrow. I moved all of his belongings to a central location in the apartment so that will reduce the amount of time he's actually over here and will decrease possible theft.
And I told him this afternoon that I'm going out tonight and I thank God he hasn't called me . . . . .However, I don't know why I'm getting this strange feeling that he's going to cancel and/or reschedule tommorrow's move (Sigh). I'll keep you guys posted.
Hi Kilah...
I'm with Jilly. Buy a computer ASAP and give him back his. You don't want to get into a legal situation because he decided to change his mind again. So get rid of it as soon as you can.
Please, keep us posted. I'm so sorry you have to be going through.
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