Mixed Emotions

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Registered: 05-17-2004
Mixed Emotions
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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 12:25pm
I recently started dating this wonderful man! I mean wonderful! He and I are so compatible, its crazy. He is the type of guy that is not afraid to express his emotions and feelings. We have been dating about a month already.

Here is my concern - I really like him. He is ready for a real relationship. He is 30 and I'm 26. I still have a guard up and am afraid to let it down. He knows that and is very understanding. Some days I think and look at him and he is a male version of me. ex. compassionate, sincere, sensitive, outgoing etc. Some of the things he does reminds me of x's. Meaning - the house he lives in - is the same type of house as an x, his name is the name of an old x etc. So its creepy in a sense.

Also - he is constantly asking me what do people think of him, etc. I have met his family and they think i'm great and he briefly met my mom, which we are planning on dinner thur night.

Maybe I am just looking into things too deep. Granted I have only been out of a relationship for 2 months, but thought I was ready. Am I not?

He says I am the girl that he is going to marry, which I can see myself doing the same, however, I feel like I am having conflicting emotions!

Help - b/c I don't want to push such a great thing away if its just me. Am I just scared that I might have actually found the one?

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Registered: 05-05-2003
In reply to: branmae
Tue, 07-13-2004 - 1:17pm
Relax! It's perfectly normal, you find a great guy and then you start to try to rob him of the pedestal you put him on. It ok, it's normal. Just remember, it's ok to be with a guy that doesn't treat you like ****. Sit back and relish in the things you do like about him and your fears will wash away. He's probably as insecure as you are right now, so be there for each other.

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Registered: 05-17-2004
In reply to: branmae
Tue, 07-13-2004 - 4:02pm
Then - is that completely normal for a guy to tell you how he feels? This guy has told me that he has found his soul mate and that he is crazy about me and that his heart is mine. I have never had someone tell me that before.

For once, I have actually found someone to put me FIRST and as a priority. How do I relax and let my feeling take their course?

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Registered: 05-05-2003
In reply to: branmae
Tue, 07-13-2004 - 4:55pm
You are just going to have to relax. Focus on all the good things that you feel and relish in them. It's hard to look at the good when you're suddenly trying to find something bad. This is the way a relationship is supposed to be....nice and easy, not a constant battle.

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