mixed signals

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Registered: 03-26-2007
mixed signals
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Mon, 03-26-2007 - 4:28pm
hey, hope you can help with this dilemma. i met a nice guy at a local hangout. we see each other often and occasionaly we talk. i'm getting mixed signals from him. he acts interested when we talk and does the whole eye-contact thing. but he has never asked for my number/email. he talks about how we should do this or that together but has never asked me out. he does not have a girlfriend. do you think he is a mental case, or is that "normal" for a guy? have you ever experienced anything like that?
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Mon, 03-26-2007 - 6:24pm
typically, in my experience, if a guy wants to ask you out, he will ask you for your number. But, what threw me was the whole talk about doing something together. When he says this, what do you respond with? Why not just give him your number next time he says that. If he doesn't call, you'll have your answer.
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Registered: 07-28-2006
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 9:12am

How do you know for sure he doesn't have a girlfriend? I've had this happen to me also with a guy that SEEMED interested in me. He'd always say, we've got to get together sometime, or I have to get your number so we can get together, what types of things do you like to do? This went on and on for months where I got sick and bored with it. Turned out I found out from a mutual friend of ours, that he indeed had a girlfriend that he was living with but they were having problems. I guess on the days that they had problems, he needed to know that I was there for back up. I'm sorry, I'm nobody's back up. I chalked that experience off as he just was not into me if he couldn't ask me out and follow through with it.

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 9:47pm
You can make sure he knows you are interested. The next time he says "we should do something" maybe you can say, "we should do that. when do you want to go out?"
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 03-29-2007 - 3:25pm
He could just be shy - whydon't you give him an opening like mentioning a movie you'd like to see... if he responds positively but not sealing the deal you can even ponder if he'd like to see it too.
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