Mixed Signals
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| Sun, 09-05-2004 - 1:05pm |
Some background may help. He will be 42 in October, I will be 34 this month. In July his mother died after a lengthy illness. He talked to me about it, not any of his other friends at work. He is definitely still reeling from this unfortunate event.
Lately, when I see him around the office I have been getting 2 varied responses that confuse me. Neither of which are similar to how he dealt with me months ago. Either he ignores me completely or seems VERY happy to see me. When he is with others and he is happy to see me, I get a little by the hip wave with a little smile. The other times he just walks by with a serious look on his face.
One day he is asking me to stop by his office because he redecorated it with pictures he has taken, the next day he looks annoyed I even said hello. One day he is telling me I should have pictures he has taken in my office, the next day he doesn't stop in and say hello. One day he wants to go skydiving (and telling me I should push him to go - I have gone twice). However, sometimes he seems annoyed. He talks a lot about wanting to get married and have children (and how sorry he is that his mother can not meet his wife or kids).
When he seems happy to see me his eyes twinkle and he has big grin. Of course that could mean, he is interested or I just entertain him. We have never met up outside of work so I do not know much about how he is in the outside world.
In summary, I can't tell if I am his appointed work buddy to talk to about stuff when the mood strikes or if he is interested. I am not used to this kind of scenario. I am used to men being more direct.
What do you think?

Sheri