Mixed signals ..advice please
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| Tue, 02-27-2007 - 1:10am |
Can anyone help! I'm 26 and jumping back into dating after a 3 years away and now this guy is driving me crazy!
Since before New Year a spark struck up between me and this guy. I see him a couple of times a week in passing (he works in security for a company I visit), he's asked me out a couple of times in a round about way ( we should meet up etc) but I didn't want to pursue it so didn't commit to a time or a place.... every time I see him he always tells me how beautiful i am and holds my hand... yep a bit of a smooth talker. So a few weeks ago he asked me again to stop by at his work and hang out ... I decided that he seemed like a nice guy I wanted too, but his shift clashed with mine, so in passing one day, I gave him my number and told him to call me if he wanted to go out, because hanging out at work wasn't going to happen.
I've dated people who were less pleased to get my number, he seemed happy and with in a few mins he called me so I had his number... I tried to be all cool ( Which I think came off as a bit of a cold.. it was a 30 second conversation, where i told him if he wanted to go out with me he should give me a call ... same response 'ok beautiful'!
He's the weird part .... its been two weeks and nothing!! I text him a week ago to see if he wanted to go the movies - and nothing. When I saw him last, there was no smooth talk no hand holding, I asked if he got my text message, but apparently he hasn't got that feature on his phone. So he said he would call me in the next couple of days.
That was last week and still no phone call? So now i'm sooo mixed up .... I don't know if my nerves have caused me to be a bit too cold with him ( I am really shy and I do try to keep things short and sweet just because its at work) or has he just played me.
I really want to ask him whats going on ... Ladies is it wrong if I leave it for a few more days and then try calling him ? I figure if I call him - at least I can say I tried instead of wondering what would happen if I don't??

sorry dear, in my humble opinion i would say he was just playing a stupid game.
he only wants to have 'the chance' but he does not pursue it.
if he would really care he would have called or given an excuse for not calling.
thank him for being an idiot early in the dating game.
be glad you did not waste more time, effort and emotions on this person, you deserve better.
keep your head up,
penelope