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| Wed, 09-15-2004 - 2:33pm |
There's this guy that I'm interested in at work. I'm pretty
sure that he's interested too. Because, we take our breaks
together and the other night he walked me out of the store
and watched me walk to my car to make sure I was alright.
He always hugs me. And he's asked me to go out several times.
The thing is. It's not happened yet. When we talk he's all
into it. He's kind of shy.
I told him that when he doesn't act on his words it looks bad
and it makes me upset and my friend's not like him. He said
that he's not that type of guy. And that he wants my friend's
to like him. But, they don't like him. Because, he's not stuck
to his word by taking me out. I haven't told him how much I
like him. And he's asked me three times if I want to go out as
boyfriend/girlfriend or friends? And acts all serious and smiles
and everything. I don't know what to do. Do I let him know how I
feel? Yes, I want to be his girlfriend. I'm just scared because,
my last boyfriend treated me bad. And he knows that.
The guy at work said that we'd take it slow and be friends and see
how it goes. But, then he's mentioned being boyfriend/girlfriend and
I havent' mentioned that. Do you think he's waiting on an answer from
me? My friend said that I should let him know how I feel and tell him
that I would like to be his girlfriend. What do you all think I should
do???

Why don't YOU ask him out and go from there. You said that he has asked you out several times already, but then you said he didn't..so I am confused.
Both you need to stop beating around the bush and make a date. This is the millenium, so show empowerment!
So why haven't you two done anything? If he's mentioned he'd like to go out, take him up on it. Tell him when you're free to go out. Ask him what time he's picking you up. Invite him to hang out with you somewhere with you.
But the biggest thing is to come out and tell him you are interested. You can't beat around the bush, some guys are too dense to pick up the clues we think we're sending.
Good luck,
Alison
Thanks, alison,
I was just thinking that actually.That I'm off tonight and he
works. But, he goes in work an hour early and I may go talk to
him. *sheeplishly grinning* I haven't got his number. He has
my number. He told me he doesn't like talking on the phone
much. Plus, he's got some personal problems. which he's told
me about in trusting me. That maybe why he hasn't had the time
to take me out. Plus, he doesn't have the extra money right now.
And he wants to take me out when he has the money to take me
out.
That could possibly be why he hasn't taken me out yet. But, there
are still cheap things we could do right? Any ideas on cheap dates?
lol. I just want to let him know that I want to spend time with him
and get to know him outside of work. P.S. we both just got out of
a relationship about three months ago. So, that could also be why
he's hesitante about taking me out?.. hmmm. I just thought of that.
I just caution you on spending too much time waiting around for him.
If you mention a few cheap things to do and he still doesn't set a time to do something, then he's just beating around the bush and not really serious about seeing you. Sometimes people just want someone they can feel *safe* with to flirt with. Make sense?
So if after this time in two weeks you two haven't done anything outside work, then find someone else to take you out.
Alison