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Registered: 08-17-2005
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Fri, 08-19-2005 - 12:44pm

I just wanted to say thank you for everyone who gave me your advice on my situation, it was a great help and relief. I was hoping I could ask you one more piece of advice.
Even though it has been a short time that me and my girlfirend have gone out
(1 month) we have talked for close to 2 months I have found that I am
crazy about this girl and knock on wood if everything works out down the
road she could be the one, like I said in my board we
have told eachother we love eachother she was the first to say
it,before she left she told me she was falling in love with me. My question is
if she wasnt serious she wouldnt tell me she loved me and
when I said it to her she would find a way not to reply correct? I
guess what I am saying if this sounds right, is Females dont throw that
phrase around lightly if you dont mean it right? I just ask
because I have never felt this way about anyone before and want to make
sure it goes smoothly. Thanks again for your help.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: dmku25
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 1:29pm
I don't think you can generalize and say that women don't throw the phrase "I love you" around casually. Women tend to get attached much more easily and quickly and while many may wait until they really feel in love until they say it, I think a lot of women (especially younger ones and I am guessing that you are both in your 20s so I consider that "younger") confuse infatuation with love. I'm not saying that she is but it happens. It sounds like she has very strong feelings for you and you for her but I still caution against moving too fast. Even a month of talking and only 2 weeks of dating before becoming exlcusive and using the "L" word is very fast. Just enjoy getting to know each other and take it slower. In my experience, it is those relationships that start out like gangbusters tend to fizzle out just as quickly because it's all based on extreme feelings and passion and when it comes to the day to day, that can't keep it up. Again, not saying that will be your situation, but if she's the one, you have the rest of your lives to get to know each other - enjoy it and have fun without rushing into it so fast! :-)

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