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more than just friends?
| Sat, 10-29-2005 - 12:49pm |
I have a close friend who is a guy that I have been friends with for 4 years. We started hanging out because I had a crush on him when I was 18, but after a month or so we decided to only be friends which has been great. But every once in a while (like every year or so) we will make out or hook up (not have sex) a few times and then decide a few weeks later that we dont want to ruin our friendship and then stop. We have that kind of friendship where I will sleep in his bed all the time, but just sleep, nothing else. Well the past few months he has been acting differently towards me when we are out and then he told me that I am his best friend and that he cares about me alot. He has never said anything remotely "caring" about our relationship so this was a shock to me. Lately I havent been working that much so I have been going out with him alot near his house about an hour away. Then a few weeks ago we had sex. And it was the best I ever had. Then 2 weeks later we did again. Both times after I have told him that I dont want the sex to ruin our friendship and he tells me that it wont. Then yesterday I dropped him off at his house and hugged him and said bye and then he kissed me for a few min. I dont know why. I wasnt expecting anything from him. I felt like I do when I have a boyfriend and I am saying goodnight so we kiss before I go inside. My question is should I say something to him about why all of a sudden he is acting this way? He is very flirty with all of my friends and sometimes i feel like all he wants to do is hook up with all my friends and I cant tell him not to since I am just his friend, but now I feel like he wants more from me. I dont know if I am reading the signals wrong or what but I dont know what to say to him and I feel like I should say something to him. Has anyone else been through this before?

My best friend moved away 12 years ago. WE just meet back up. We have been spending megga amounts of time together. Even hours at a time on the phone. We talk about how we felt back then, and that we still have the hots for each other. I was at his house, and we were just lying there talking and holding each other. I got lost in his eyes, and we had sex. It was like he was making love to me. Before we did this he told me, that he has been hurt in the past, and is not ready to start a serious relationship, but has not ruled out dating me. He just found out that he will be moving about 2 hours away in a month.
We have been talking, and we tell each other how hard it is going to be without each other. He tells me all the time that he misses me the second I leave. I know I shouldn't but I am falling madly in love with him. Everytime we see each other we can't resist kissing. When we do have sex, he is all about pleasing me,and what I want.
Should I tell him how I feel, even though I know he doesn't feel the same way, he has pretty much bluntly told me, "that he loves me, he is just not in love with me, not yet anyway"
I am in the same boat!
I wish I could help you. I thonk you dhould follow your heart, at least your friend hasn't told you, that he likes you, but doesn't want to date you. TAKE THAT CHANCE!!!
If he is a true friend, no matter what you say to him, it won't ruin your friendshiP!!!!
EMAIL ME AT SHORTZ17821@AIM.COM, MAYBE WE CAN HELP EACH OTHER!
Your situation is what they refer to as "friends with benefits".